Post by Sensitive Soul on Apr 16, 2005 9:42:49 GMT -5
Sorry for the long post but I need to try and explain the circumstances and Also for bad spelling/ wording.
I work in small section of an IT department. In department there is only me and this other lady we have been working together now for year and half. The nature of our job means we work very closely together in the work we do and we get on very well. I have for a long while now found her very attractive, funny and intelligent. I just don’t know how to tell her how I feel.
What happened to make things worse?
We have had a new rotor put in meaning that some people have to go to anther site for 1 day week (not us two though). One of the blokes that went there who was on his last week before leaving got board.
So he started email both me and my colleague as we where arranging his leaving do. In one of the emails to her he started to try to find out her inner most secrets. She started to flirt back with him. I did not see this email though she did tell me and other colleagues this her self (PS He is married with kids and happy.)
She was open to a point. About what he was tiring to get her to reveal with out going into the full details. I was involved with one of the emails he/she had been sending so some of it was not a secret.
I asked her to forward one of the emails to me so I could send a reply. She was happy to. But then got very defensive when she thought I was reading the other comments even though I had post some of the early ones myself. She then realised that this particular email was not the one she thought it was.
We sat and had coffee couple of days later and he came up in conversation. She told me that flirting with him was easy as nothing would happen as he is happily married.
Other people we work with have made comments before “that we would make a lovely couple†and when we where out for his leaving do last night her friend said something similar. Every time she replies with something like “I don’t think soâ€. I not sure whether her replies when people tell her we go well together are her true feelings or not.
How I feel
In the last couple of days I have had nothing on my mind expect her and trying to pluck up the courage to tell her how I feel more so that ever before. It’s beginning to make me feel ill. (May be love Sick if there such a sickness) I want to tell her but I am like most shy people afraid that she will reject me. I have been playing over and over in my mind what I would say to her. I also do not want to make it hard for to carry on working with me once she knows my true feelings. To be honest I am not even sure if she has not already guest.
I suppose I have become jealous that she can talk more openly to him than me or that she may fancy him. It got so bad to the point where (and I did not) I would like to have looked at the other emails that where sent. I even felt like she was always minimizing her email when I came in the room in case I saw something.
I have been much more quite in the last two days at work as a result of this which she has noticed and has tried a couple of times to find out what’s wrong. She told me last night when we where out for the leaving do that she asked me a few times to see if she could help and as I did not seem to want it she would leave alone. Once when she asked I did tell her it’s personal but went no further than that.
It is also possible that a few months we both be out of a job. Which may mean although she lives near to me I will have never see her again and if I do not ask soon I will regret it.
It makes me sad when I think about it to point of crying.
I work in small section of an IT department. In department there is only me and this other lady we have been working together now for year and half. The nature of our job means we work very closely together in the work we do and we get on very well. I have for a long while now found her very attractive, funny and intelligent. I just don’t know how to tell her how I feel.
What happened to make things worse?
We have had a new rotor put in meaning that some people have to go to anther site for 1 day week (not us two though). One of the blokes that went there who was on his last week before leaving got board.
So he started email both me and my colleague as we where arranging his leaving do. In one of the emails to her he started to try to find out her inner most secrets. She started to flirt back with him. I did not see this email though she did tell me and other colleagues this her self (PS He is married with kids and happy.)
She was open to a point. About what he was tiring to get her to reveal with out going into the full details. I was involved with one of the emails he/she had been sending so some of it was not a secret.
I asked her to forward one of the emails to me so I could send a reply. She was happy to. But then got very defensive when she thought I was reading the other comments even though I had post some of the early ones myself. She then realised that this particular email was not the one she thought it was.
We sat and had coffee couple of days later and he came up in conversation. She told me that flirting with him was easy as nothing would happen as he is happily married.
Other people we work with have made comments before “that we would make a lovely couple†and when we where out for his leaving do last night her friend said something similar. Every time she replies with something like “I don’t think soâ€. I not sure whether her replies when people tell her we go well together are her true feelings or not.
How I feel
In the last couple of days I have had nothing on my mind expect her and trying to pluck up the courage to tell her how I feel more so that ever before. It’s beginning to make me feel ill. (May be love Sick if there such a sickness) I want to tell her but I am like most shy people afraid that she will reject me. I have been playing over and over in my mind what I would say to her. I also do not want to make it hard for to carry on working with me once she knows my true feelings. To be honest I am not even sure if she has not already guest.
I suppose I have become jealous that she can talk more openly to him than me or that she may fancy him. It got so bad to the point where (and I did not) I would like to have looked at the other emails that where sent. I even felt like she was always minimizing her email when I came in the room in case I saw something.
I have been much more quite in the last two days at work as a result of this which she has noticed and has tried a couple of times to find out what’s wrong. She told me last night when we where out for the leaving do that she asked me a few times to see if she could help and as I did not seem to want it she would leave alone. Once when she asked I did tell her it’s personal but went no further than that.
It is also possible that a few months we both be out of a job. Which may mean although she lives near to me I will have never see her again and if I do not ask soon I will regret it.
It makes me sad when I think about it to point of crying.