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Post by Speedracer on May 17, 2005 5:32:24 GMT -5
yeeouch.... this is always bad. well...you should be proud of yourself for telling her and facing it. i was in love with a girl once...for a very long time. to make a long story short, eventually i couldnt take anymore and i told her how i felt. she never told me straight out she didnt feel the same or she didnt care about me, she just said she didnt want a bf at the time....i said i understand. about 2 months later she got married to someone else. i was pretty heartbroken, but i got through it. but ive never been the same since i lost her. telling her how i felt was the hardest thing i ever did....but at least i did it, and she knows how i feel. i think i would have really regretted it if i hadnt told her...then she would never have known. at least now she knows how you feel. that took some guts to do what you did. youre right youll never get over it....its not gonna be easy....just try to accept it and learn to live with it. at least you still get to see her everday and spend time with her. ill probably never get to see mine again.
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Post by streetworm on May 24, 2005 20:39:48 GMT -5
As bad as that was it would have been worse by tenfold if you had gone on without ever having said anything to her and always wondered if she'd felt the same way for you. Be glad that you had the guts to ask her man, it's something I'm sure everyone on this forum has either had a really hard time doing or will in the future. It's tough but I think it really builds you up mentally so it's easier to handle the next time a similiar situation arises.
I feel for ya, try not to take it TOO hard, I know it hurts but try to go out and do something you enjoy and maybe get your mind off it. It's worth a shot anyways.
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Post by ShySoul on May 26, 2005 14:56:59 GMT -5
Well it's been a while since I post my message.
Still work with the same person, Still love the same person
Working with her is hard in some way's as I see her every day. Still get jealous feelings even though I know I should not. In my mind I still feel she liked our colleague who left. Since she still sends him emails on a regular basis. Like yesterday when she asked him what he was doing for the bank holiday weekend we have in England.
Wonder if I left whether she would keep in contact in the same. Even though we have worked much more closely together and live with in 1 Minute of each over. Some how think not.
If there is one I wish was to know why. If it's my looks then I can cope with that. But if it's my personalty then that's harder to deal with. Still that's the 24 million dollar question. I doubt I will ever know.
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 17:13:48 GMT -5
Well it's been a while since I post my message. Still work with the same person, Still love the same person Working with her is hard in some way's as I see her every day. Still get jealous feelings even though I know I should not. In my mind I still feel she liked our colleague who left. Since she still sends him emails on a regular basis. Like yesterday when she asked him what he was doing for the bank holiday weekend we have in England. Wonder if I left whether she would keep in contact in the same. Even though we have worked much more closely together and live with in 1 Minute of each over. Some how think not. If there is one I wish was to know why. If it's my looks then I can cope with that. But if it's my personalty then that's harder to deal with. Still that's the 24 million dollar question. I doubt I will ever know. Its no longer the 24 million dollar question its now worth around 50 million to get a decent reply, but atleast you told her how you feel and she knows that now
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Post by Jarous on Jun 30, 2005 9:43:28 GMT -5
If there is one I wish was to know why. Ever noticed how pointless are the "why" questions? Things simply happen, we can describe them but can't explain them ... why is there gravity? God knows And the ba@#$rd is not about to tell us... Live with it... How many women you know? How many of them would you consider dating? Why not the others? See, no hard feelings towards her, you'd do the same...
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Post by cyclopse on Jul 1, 2005 20:38:08 GMT -5
great job on telling her ive been going through the same situation with girl i like for close to 8 months i guess the writing is on the wall that she doesnt like me in that way its just something is telling me i should tell still tell her eventhough i havent yet. I guess its just that feeling of due you want to look back years from now and say wow i wished i would have said something eventhough i probably new the answer.
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Post by ShySoul on Jul 3, 2005 16:35:30 GMT -5
cyclopse,
You sound like you are in the same situation, as I was. The things you have to remember is, to make sure you are going to be able to cope with the outcome.
I also did not contemplate all the feelings she might have felt. Although I spent the 2/3 days, thinking of what to say. It never came out right. If you are going to say something, then make sure you get it all out in the open.
What upset her was the feeling that some how she had in her actions made the suggestion that she liked me that way. She was then trying to understand what she had done to make me think that she liked me that way. It maid the air, so bad between us for a couple of days. Until I explain everything and then she understood.
Life is long since back to normal well as normal as it can be.
If she has not shown you any sort of advance then she proberbly does not. Though you might be like me and unable to see that!
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