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Post by Twice-Shy on May 13, 2003 7:48:13 GMT -5
The first time I realised I was shy was when I was 8 or 9 years old. Every year the local youth club would hire a coach and take all the kids away to the seaside for day trip. I hatred it! I hated the ride down. I hated being around strangers. I can remember almost having a panic attack. The same thing happed a few months later when I was at the youth cliub Christmas disco. The girl next door had to bring me home early I was in such a state.
Do you have a first memory of when you realised you were shy?
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Post by Tiff on May 13, 2003 9:26:53 GMT -5
Hello,
My first instance. Well..probaly started when I started school. I was really nervous around the other kids and I was very quiet..and they teased me from then on. So, from when on I didn't want to be in the center of attention and avoided most development of friendships. I was an outcast throughout my school years til I left high school.
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Post by moogle on May 13, 2003 10:33:59 GMT -5
i guess i also noticed when i started school. before that i was always around kids i knew, since my mom ran a daycare in our house. but, then i got to school and i didn't know anyone. i wasn't made fun of, just ignored, which was fine with me.
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Post by spitzig on May 13, 2003 15:59:10 GMT -5
Oh, I remember hiding behind my mother's skirt and her saying I was shy and I'd grow out of it. I was probably 4 or so. I think it was before I started school.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on May 13, 2003 23:49:58 GMT -5
I was born shy! I honestly can't remember ever not being shy. I swear people must have thought that I was mute until about the age of 13 or so. I could give you countless stories but, I probably already told them in other posts. I'm a lot better now and accepted the fact that I am a quiet person. I call myself quiet now instead of shy because, while I still might have my moments, I'm usually good about speaking up when I need to. While I'm able to give more than one word answers, I'm still not good with chit chat but, I'm learning to just not care about what the person might be thinking about me. I won't go out on the dance floor to shake my booty but, that's because I can't dance and feel silly trying. I find that most people think that I am a stronger person for just saying "No, I feel rediculous on the dance floor." rather than go about the ordeal of letting them try to convince me to do it. OK, I am rambeling now... I'll stop  |
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Post by Twice-Shy on May 14, 2003 8:04:36 GMT -5
After a few pints of Guinness I always convinced myself that I was the new John Travolta. When I got married, our song was 'No matter what' by Boyzone. Me and my wife had to dance in front of the aunties and it was terrible.
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Post by glenn miller on May 15, 2003 1:58:55 GMT -5
i can not remember when i was not shy. when i started school though. it was harder. i never talked. nobady wanted to be around me. i am better now. but am still pretty shy. i am in norway now.
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Post by Twice-Shy on May 15, 2003 5:21:02 GMT -5
My shyness seems to run in cycles. I was painfully shy as a kid, at secondary school I became less so because I was pretty good at school work and sports. Then when I left school to go to uni it seemed to return. I think I felt intimidated by those around me. I went to a state school and had a thick loud Belfast accent and they all spoke well and went to grammar schools.
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Post by amber320 on May 19, 2003 22:17:04 GMT -5
I remember in school this girl turning around and looking at me really snooty and she said "do you talk"? a few people have asked me that |
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Post by Michael1973 on May 21, 2003 12:52:38 GMT -5
Amber, that reminded me of a few years ago. I was walking through the mail room of the building I work on and this one girl shouts, "Good morning, sunshine!" and people around her laughed. Some people have no respect whatsoever for others' feelings.
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Post by Mildman1 on May 21, 2003 14:36:13 GMT -5
Amber, that reminded me of a few years ago. I was walking through the mail room of the building I work on and this one girl shouts, "Good morning, sunshine!" and people around her laughed. Some people have no respect whatsoever for others' feelings. Using humour is usually a good way to respond. |
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Post by moogle on May 21, 2003 14:46:44 GMT -5
i usually have no idea what to say in those situations, so i just glare.
no wonder people were scared of me in high school..
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Post by Mildman1 on May 21, 2003 14:51:02 GMT -5
I remember in school this girl turning around and looking at me really snooty and she said "do you talk"? a few people have asked me that I got the same kind of thing up until I left secondary school at 18. Work has opened me up quite a lot, although how much I talk usually depends on fluctuating confidence. |
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Post by Shane on May 22, 2003 9:21:20 GMT -5
I found that when I went into the office in the mornings the first few minutes would tell me how my day was going to go. If I had a good first few minutes and had a nice chat with somebody else that would mean I would have a good day. If those first few minutes didn't go so well I would hardly say a word for the rest of the day.
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Post by inkysoftwhispers on May 22, 2003 11:38:40 GMT -5
That reminds me when I was about 15 this guy was talking to me at a gig. It was so loud an people can never hear me in places like that,even if I think I'm shouting.
But suddenly he just said 'Er,are you actually going to say anything? You can't just keep smiling and nodding', in a REALLY arrogant way. That's probably when it hit me.
Also my mates overheard an had a right go at him. An I was jus standing there looking a bit sheepish. It felt like I was a mute. Didn't even try saying anything cos I was so sure no-one would hear.
Argh, so frustrating!
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