Post by deadendphilosopher on Jun 25, 2008 18:35:14 GMT -5
if you develop a crush on a friend she may already know how she feels about you, but that could change if she finds out you're interested. People (perhaps females especially) are more inclined to become interested if you show some interest in them
I have to completely disagree here
knowing how one feels means exactly that - if in the negative, the idea of her and with the guy just doesn't sit well, in that case it doesn't really matter how he feels
the only way it would work is if the girl is somewhat impartial to the guy - she likes him just enough to say yes to an advance but not enough to actively seek his attention. but how she feels is in the positive territory here
this extends beyond romantic as well
if someone does not like you for some reason, you will not change their opinion by being nice to them or doing things for them
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once a friend suggested getting flowers for a girl - she said 'flowers can do wonders'. I replied with something or other (arguing), to which she added 'from the right guy, flowers can do wonders'. And that subtlety makes all the difference.
I have become interested in guys whom it didn't cross my mind to be interested in at all until they showed some interest in me. I will admit that I never got to know them very well, so maybe it's different when you've been friends with someone for a while. I can't really speak from experience, but I believe feelings can change even in a friendship. I think sometimes people don't have the capacity to be attracted to certain people, but I think people can also have neutral feelings toward someone and when the possibility of something more is offered to them, feelings of attraction are given an opportunity to come out. Doing something novel, exciting, and a little dangerous with a person could also help stimulate such feelings.