Bleh...

[rukryM]

Nov 30, 2008 17:05:01 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Nov 30, 2008 15:56:02 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Exactly, SP. There's obviously something "wrong" with this kind of view, nevertheless is this how I perceive the world. That's why I believe I might suffer from APD or another personality disorder^^.

so what's the first step towards correcting that gonna be?

A diagnosis from a psychologist, I guess. When and where is yet to be determined.

[rukryM]

Dec 1, 2008 3:50:55 GMT -5 @wapwawet said:

But, for an actual relationship her personality can't be completely bimbodic. And as for the "bigger better deal" women do that just as much. I suppose it's evolution at work.

I think there are shallow guys and girls out there who constantly seek the best and care less on what's inside of a person. Similarly, there are individuals of both genders who are on the look for something more profound and serious. It actually looks like girls are MORE superficial than guys in my surroundings. Don't how it is worldwide, though.

[Sweet Pea]

Dec 1, 2008 14:55:58 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Dec 1, 2008 3:50:55 GMT -5 @wapwawet said:

But, for an actual relationship her personality can't be completely bimbodic. And as for the "bigger better deal" women do that just as much. I suppose it's evolution at work.

I think there are shallow guys and girls out there who constantly seek the best and care less on what's inside of a person. Similarly, there are individuals of both genders who are on the look for something more profound and serious. It actually looks like girls are MORE superficial than guys in my surroundings. Don't how it is worldwide, though.

sometime when i have time i'll post all the ads running on craigslist for my area where a guy says things like he's looking for a woman who 'has her act together', 'is financially set' and others...all code for 'has plenty of money'. then there's the long laundry lists of physical features they want. and sometimes they even specify what neighborhoods they want them to live in, and what stores they want them to shop at. i really can't understand how anyone could come to the conclusion that men are less superficial here. unless it is just because so many of them will screw anything, but that's not really a 'relationship'.

[wapwawet]

Dec 1, 2008 19:09:19 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 1, 2008 14:55:58 GMT -5 rukryM said:

I think there are shallow guys and girls out there who constantly seek the best and care less on what's inside of a person. Similarly, there are individuals of both genders who are on the look for something more profound and serious. It actually looks like girls are MORE superficial than guys in my surroundings. Don't how it is worldwide, though.

sometime when i have time i'll post all the ads running on craigslist for my area where a guy says things like he's looking for a woman who 'has her act together', 'is financially set' and others...all code for 'has plenty of money'. then there's the long laundry lists of physical features they want. and sometimes they even specify what neighborhoods they want them to live in, and what stores they want them to shop at. i really can't understand how anyone could come to the conclusion that men are less superficial here. unless it is just because so many of them will screw anything, but that's not really a 'relationship'.

Girls aren't more superificial, but they certainly aren't any less. At least, not from the studies I've read.

[madiocre]

i think girls can be more superficial about things like earning money, interests etc not necessarily visual qualities but superficial qualities none the less .That off course is a sweeping statement and it is something that varies from person to person and we all are superficial in one way or another .

[rukryM]

Dec 1, 2008 19:09:19 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 1, 2008 14:55:58 GMT -5 rukryM said:

I think there are shallow guys and girls out there who constantly seek the best and care less on what's inside of a person. Similarly, there are individuals of both genders who are on the look for something more profound and serious. It actually looks like girls are MORE superficial than guys in my surroundings. Don't how it is worldwide, though.

sometime when i have time i'll post all the ads running on craigslist for my area where a guy says things like he's looking for a woman who 'has her act together', 'is financially set' and others...all code for 'has plenty of money'. then there's the long laundry lists of physical features they want. and sometimes they even specify what neighborhoods they want them to live in, and what stores they want them to shop at. i really can't understand how anyone could come to the conclusion that men are less superficial here. unless it is just because so many of them will screw anything, but that's not really a 'relationship'.

I haven't seen or heard of any of those guys around here, mostly because I get the feeling we still live in an old-fashioned society where it is still the man who has to have the highest paid job, and provide financial and practical safety to his family.

I think I'm looking forward to a good laugh when I see those "girl-guys" make their demands, though .

Girls {and women} around here do nothing but prey for men who have money and a safe place to stay. Once having established a relationship to him ,they start making more and more demands, start controlling his life and in the end makes life unbearable for him. If they have been conceived, they also make sure they remain with the right to keep the child{ren}. And then they jump on the next bloke who shows up, hence the escalation into a vicious circle. And of course my gender is the one who everyone blames^^.

[Sweet Pea]

Dec 2, 2008 12:02:52 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Dec 1, 2008 19:09:19 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

sometime when i have time i'll post all the ads running on craigslist for my area where a guy says things like he's looking for a woman who 'has her act together', 'is financially set' and others...all code for 'has plenty of money'. then there's the long laundry lists of physical features they want. and sometimes they even specify what neighborhoods they want them to live in, and what stores they want them to shop at. i really can't understand how anyone could come to the conclusion that men are less superficial here. unless it is just because so many of them will screw anything, but that's not really a 'relationship'.

I haven't seen or heard of any of those guys around here, mostly because I get the feeling we still live in an old-fashioned society where it is still the man who has to have the highest paid job, and provide financial and practical safety to his family.

I think I'm looking forward to a good laugh when I see those "girl-guys" make their demands, though .

Girls {and women} around here do nothing but prey for men who have money and a safe place to stay. Once having established a relationship to him ,they start making more and more demands, start controlling his life and in the end makes life unbearable for him. If they have been conceived, they also make sure they remain with the right to keep the child{ren}. And then they jump on the next bloke who shows up, hence the escalation into a vicious circle. And of course my gender is the one who everyone blames^^.

i'm going out for awhile, but i'll try to post some examples of what i was talking about later when i get back home. maybe you will find it amusing.

[Sweet Pea]

okay, here's some of the buzz words i've lifted from personal ads posted by men for my local area.

"I am looking for an attractive and intelligent professional woamn with a good career plus..."

"....educated, $ecure, professional lady..."

i'd post more, but as i'm reading through these lists of...um...requirements, i'm feeling kind of ill...so i'm gonna stop now, lol.

[rukryM]

Oh yeah, isn't that every girl/woman's Mr. Right ? It made me laugh and believe that at least I'm not the biggest loser on the planet. I actually have to say I agree with what he said about "like" and the use of it, minus all his profanity and coarse language ^^.

[crimeclub]

At times he kinda reminds me of Robert Downey Jr as far as his mannerisms, minus the awesomeness.

[Sweet Pea]

Dec 3, 2008 12:55:29 GMT -5 crimeclub said:

At times he kinda reminds me of Robert Downey Jr as far as his mannerisms, minus the awesomeness.

awesomeness? from what i've seen, he's rather an ass as well.

[theinfiniteabyss84]

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[pnoopiepnats]

Done. ;D

[Sweet Pea]

okay, you paranoid you. i deleted my posts where i quoted you so as not to look like an idiot who talks to herself.

[Sweet Pea]

that's it, i'm not quoting you anymore. lol