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Post by nigella on Mar 18, 2009 2:54:01 GMT -5
It does seem that some girls do like shy or reserved men the reason why is that they can see that these guys are vulnerable.They will also care for the girl more though i think that theres certain types of girls.So its not easy for the shy guy to meet these what i term as relationship girls.
Ive also read that older women can like the shy guys i think that is cos a motherly insticnt occurs.
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Post by brightestdark on Mar 18, 2009 15:08:01 GMT -5
I like shy guys because I'm a shy female. I'm quite old although don't think it's anything to do with a 'motherly instinct' as I hate kids! I just like shy guys because I know what it's like to be shy, and it's nice to meet someone who shares the same qualities. I only like cute shy guys though, not just any shy guy! LOL. And I think it's quite hard to tell who is shy and who isn't. Sometimes if a guy doesn't speak to me I might think it's because he doesn't like me or not interested in making conversation. I won't think he's shy unless I specifically find out that he is.
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Post by nigella on Mar 18, 2009 16:24:48 GMT -5
I think if a guy gets embarrased easily then he probably is shy.Especially if a female flirts with him or pays him a compliment.
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Post by rukryM on Mar 19, 2009 10:19:03 GMT -5
I think girls can like shy males, but the problem comes when the shy guy steps down and withdraws from the social situation into his shell, making an invisible "wall" between him and the girl, so it gets a lot more difficult for her to reach through. It's a well known fact that one who is hard to communicate with hasn't got a very rich social life {unfortunately for all the nice shy lads out there [that sentence sounded kind of gay, btw. ]}, hence the fact that one NEEDS to sacrifice a bit of oneself to get into a relationship with a girl ^^.
The so-called mother instinct also goes the other way around, I've read a lot of times that girls fall for the bad boy type since they feel the mother instinct calling them to kind of "straighten him up", if you know what I mean. But since I don't know I won't make any conclusions, just theorising ^^.
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Post by nigella on Mar 19, 2009 13:03:21 GMT -5
Well i think it depends on whether the girl is somone who likes partying and clubbing and basically out all weekend.I think if the girl likes staying in with her man at weekends that changes things speaking from my experience i dont really like nightclubs or huge partys i just end up drinking and getting ratarsed to make me come out of myself more.
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Post by MrNice on Mar 19, 2009 13:56:49 GMT -5
there is a whole lot more variations in people's behavior between going to clubs all the time and staying at home all the time
every shy guy is different, it doesn't make sense to ask do girls really like shy guys
its like asking do girls really like blond guys?
shyness makes you inhibited and makes it more difficult to connect with people
how this would be an advantage is beyond me.
a person just doesn't have to be shy in order to prefer a more serene lifestyle then going to big clubs every weekend
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Post by nigella on Mar 21, 2009 10:57:17 GMT -5
My point was though that its harder for a reserved person to like nightclubs as it dosent suit their nature.Speaking from my experience and a freind whos shy as well.
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Post by ball4yourout on Mar 27, 2009 8:50:57 GMT -5
I don't think girls really know what they want. They say one thing and do another.
I think I know what girls want, though. They want someone who is attractive in some shape or form. And that's all there is to it.
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Post by rukryM on Mar 27, 2009 13:12:20 GMT -5
No.
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Post by nigella on Mar 27, 2009 16:29:35 GMT -5
Not entirely true my sister likes shy guys and has been with one for 5 years.
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 28, 2009 0:09:32 GMT -5
I don't think girls really know what they want. They say one thing and do another. I think I know what girls want, though. They want someone who is attractive in some shape or form. And that's all there is to it. i think you could remove the word 'girls' and plug in the word 'guys' in this statement pretty easily.  How about we compromise and hyphenate the two?  |
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Post by Stranger on Mar 28, 2009 10:03:17 GMT -5
i think you could remove the word 'girls' and plug in the word 'guys' in this statement pretty easily. How about we compromise and hyphenate the two? Hyphenate? Yeah, I suppose it does apply to "girl-guys" too. |
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Post by jai on Apr 8, 2009 7:15:44 GMT -5
Im a shy guy and had the most popular girl on my course come after me. She was clearly flirting with me but I was just too shy to make that first move. We flirted for 2 months before one day I said in my head "f**k it" I kissed her. She told me afterwards I've been waiting nearly 2 months for that. So guys out there if a girl flirts with you use the "f**k" it theory and whats the worst that could happen? If it doesn't kill ya it only makes you stronger!
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Post by bluetruth on Apr 13, 2009 0:03:14 GMT -5
Im a shy guy and had the most popular girl on my course come after me. She was clearly flirting with me but I was just too shy to make that first move. We flirted for 2 months before one day I said in my head "f**k it" I kissed her. She told me afterwards I've been waiting nearly 2 months for that. So guys out there if a girl flirts with you use the "f**k" it theory and whats the worst that could happen? If it doesn't kill ya it only makes you stronger! Wow... that's just full of epic win. I'm sorry but I don't think most of the people on here have that kind of nerve. More often than not my friends drag me by the arm to meet a new girl. I usually stutter for a few moments then clam up completely. Yes, it is possible for girls to like shy guys. Sometimes we just come off as the strong silent type or the emotionally distressed type, which is attractive to some people. I've been seen as both, and my current interest sees me as the latter and feels a desire to "fix" me - which is true. |
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Post by bleaknunhappy on May 3, 2009 20:46:38 GMT -5
From my experiences, most women do not like shy guys. They view us as weak and somewhat feminine. I've read that interacting with shy guys illicits the "mother instinct" in women and I believe that because that's the vibe I get whenever girls I know try to talk to me. As much as I hate to say it, nice girls don't actually exist, although they will be nice to you they will never like you in the way you want unless you change. Even the most timid shy girl will respond more to some jerk-off who is assertive than a genuine good guy who hangs back, despite what they say.
Women don't know what they want, they say one thing and mean another. Being shy is perceived as weakness if you are a man in this sick Western culture we live in. Fortunately we can change, its just a long, painful, excruciating process. I am just starting to try to change, even though I hate people.
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