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Post by Outcast on Nov 12, 2007 10:51:29 GMT -5
Do you think it is possible that some people just aren't meant to be in a relationship? Could it be that someone is so insecure, immature and selfish that they can't ever be in a relationship? Yes. I believe it is possible. Because right now, i feel i am that someone. The truth hurts sometimes... It's really hard. When you try your best, to change. Again and again. Only to fail, and see that your right back where you first started. Yeah, it makes me wonder now, if it is even possible for me to be in a relationship. Especially when i don't even know how to have a friend for starters. I really hate it when i'm down like this. But sometimes i feel , i am just fooling myself, when i force myself to think positive. (Sighs).
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Post by Outcast on Jan 25, 2008 1:11:47 GMT -5
I don't know what is it about phones. But sometimes i feel i have more courage talking to someone on the phone rather in person. I noticed that i can kid around and talk comfortably with people who i barely know, even strangers on the phone. I can even stand up for myself sometimes when people look down on me on the phone. Whereas in person, i can really be very quiet. Even with relatives. Maybe i prefer not knowing how people would react to what i have to say. Talking in person, i usually read people's action in a negative way. This often happens by the way, so i tend to avoid it nowadays. It just makes me sad.
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Post by Outcast on Jan 19, 2008 9:31:00 GMT -5
I guess it could be worth the risk, in that you have achieved some mastery over your fear and emotions. On the other hand, to lose a friend that way. I'm not really sure. I guess that's how things sometimes work. You can't mix love and friendship. But i think you two can probably still remain friends. Although for the moment, it might be well to give her some time and space. An occasional greeting or two will do. Small chat. So as not to pressure her on anything. At least now you know her true feelings. You know what they say. Better to have tried than not at all. Now you can stop wondering the "what ifs". A solid relationship needs to go both ways to work. In time, i think you will be able to get over her and eventually find someone who can love you back in return.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 24, 2007 0:06:14 GMT -5
Embarassment is only temporary, which I suppose is what I had in mind when I typed my reply. Feeling unaccepted is long-term, isn't it? Which I suppose is what the poster meant? Yeah, your right. Feeling unaccepted is something i'm familiar too as well. But sometimes i think, how sure am i? Is it all just in my mind? I've been called a moron quite a number of times. By my boss,co-worker,relatives,so-called friends. Yeah, i think i know what it feels like when your opinion doesn't count. All i can do is try and shrug it off. There is this book i've read that says, one should simply ignore criticisms which are unfounded and untrue. On the other hand, constructive criticisms should be welcomed, so we'll know what we need to work on or improve.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 23, 2007 23:11:19 GMT -5
[quote author=annaa board=general thread=1198461453 post=1198463022 Don't stop speaking out because of bad experience. People need to hear what other people have to say... that's when changes happen (sometimes for the better).[/quote] Sometimes it's really hard to speak out again after a bad experience. I know the right thing to do is just to ignore it. But what if you were publicly embarrassed in front of a group of people. Sometimes it just makes me want to hide forever. Doubts begin. And i question myself, my self worth. If people would call you moron in a group you belong to, i don't think i could take it. Nevertheless, i don't like to be down and sad after that. I would try and force a smile or two. But still, the hurt i would feel would linger for a while. It may take me some time to come back and be open to that group as well.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 14, 2007 0:26:43 GMT -5
Wow. That's some miracle you had. I think that's usually the best way to deal with any sickness. Keeping positive and not giving up. I also believe alternative medicine is somewhat better and safer compared to those prescribed by the doctor. Some of which have side effects, i would rather avoid. But, it is during these difficult and crucial times, that our views, and priorities in life undergo a real makeover. You get to realize things. Things that really matter, and those that are a bit trivial when you really think about it.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 13, 2007 3:29:02 GMT -5
What if you were diagnosed with a terminal illness? What would you do? Would it change how you look at things in general? On what's really important? Would you still go about your daily routine? Would you fight it? Or would you let it get you down?
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Post by Outcast on Dec 13, 2007 3:16:27 GMT -5
I think it's good that you know how to play a musical instrument. Besides being a good outlet for you, it's really something you should be proud of. If you develop that skill of yours, i'm sure it will be a tremendous confidence booster. Good for you.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 8, 2007 11:26:23 GMT -5
Belated Happy Birthday! Like they say, "Everyone is the age of their heart." ~Guatemalan Proverb
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Post by Outcast on Nov 26, 2007 4:18:01 GMT -5
How would you know if its the kind of love that would transcend the hardships you two would eventually face with no money?
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Post by Outcast on Nov 12, 2007 10:22:41 GMT -5
LOST....
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Post by Outcast on Oct 25, 2007 11:12:57 GMT -5
Hello again. Thanks for the replies guys. Appreciate it. I'll see if i can get enough courage to tell something about myself more. You know, I remember it's that particular question that i dreaded the most when i was still at school. I guess up to now, I still can't get rid of that feeling. Especially when it's introducing yourself among a group of people.
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Post by Outcast on Oct 23, 2007 0:28:19 GMT -5
Hello everyone. I'm new here and i don't know where to start. Can anybody help me?
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Post by Outcast on Oct 26, 2007 10:52:29 GMT -5
I think i had that very same feeling with a job i had a long time ago. I also felt the job wasn't suited for the likes of me. I made a lot of mistakes and felt i was doing the company more harm than good. When i couldn't take it anymore, I resigned from the company. But maybe i was able to do it because i knew i had another job i could fall back too. I think you are on the right track , since u r already looking/applying for another job. For now, you need that job, because it pays your bills. Try to appreciate it for now, because it gives you that much at least. Until you can find another substitute for it. I know it's going to be tough. But i think you need the job as of the moment. Maybe you can try to keep yourself busy at your work. So you won't have anytime to think about all those negative things that keep popping up in your mind. You owe it to yourself to be kind to yourself. When you hear yourself saying all these negative things about yourself and you begin to doubt yourself, just stop. Say to yourself, "stop it". We are responsible for our happiness. We shouldn't let any outside source affect us. Like Abraham Lincoln said "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Just do your best, and don't mind what the others may say. You can do it. Learn to forgive yourself when you make a mistake. Everybody makes them. Anyways, hope i was able to help. Remember to be good to yourself. Think positive.
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Post by Outcast on Nov 2, 2007 2:11:56 GMT -5
Curveball is an informant..http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curveball_(informant)
Why are people shy? Is it true that shy people only think of themselves?
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