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Post by billd1 on Jun 17, 2013 10:30:47 GMT -5
just hire a contractor that has a good better business bureau rating and get the hell out of the house! your shyness won't be an issue! sweetpea, I don't have any Money to hire a contractor. I did speak to a gentleman who know Mr. Fixer Upper, boss of the Fixer Upper Gang, who said that the Fixer Upper outfit is still going strong, and this guy had recently used their services. I'm going to overcome my shyness about contacting Mr. Fixer Upper, and call him on the phone again. The first time I contacted him about 3 years ago, I got good service, but the second time, he told me to have someone else do what I was requesting. I felt like he was giving me the brush off and just plain didn't want anything To do with me. Maybe that was the case and still is the case, but if it is so, what? Rejection is a part of life that we all have to accept and deal with. I'm hopeful that he won't brush me off this time, after almost three years, and this time, I will get some help from him, like I did the first time.
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Post by billd1 on Jun 14, 2013 14:12:49 GMT -5
I'm a homeowner, although with my lack of money, I fear that I might eventually loose the home that I own.
But, for the present, due to my extremem shyness, I have run into a problem getting help with household repairs.
It's a long, complicated story, but some people like to read such stories, and if you are one of those people, you'll have a ball reading the story that I have to tell.
I basically prefer to do all household repairs that I need, but sometimes things are beyond my capability.
I am a member of a church, that has a group called the Fixier-Upper Gang, although on their official listing in the entrance hall to the church building, they are called the Fixer Upper Ministry.
Well, about 4 or so years ago,I had a ceiling fan to stop working in my residence. The room it is in has a "cathedral" ceiling, and was really too high for me to reach, but with an inadequte ladder, I was able to take the fan down, and, to my shock, discovered that the fan was not attatched to an electrical circuit box, but just held to the ceiling by 2 wood screws, the 120 wires just sticking out of the ceiling!
So, that's where this long, complicated story got started 3-4 years ago.
There was no way I could install an electrical box in the ceiling, with my inadequate ladder.
I have a very dear friend that I'll call Sailor Sam, who is a retired electrician, and I had given some thought to having him come into my residence to assist me in installing the electrical box for a new ceiling fan, but after some soul searching, decided not to ask him to help, because he does have a well intentioned bossiness, and I knew that if he came into my residence and saw my poor housekeeping, that he wouldn't like it, and would try to boss me into cleaning things up.
So, that's when I decided to try the Fixer Uppper Gang, which has lead to a 3 year standoff in my attempts to get some household improvements done to my place.
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Post by billd1 on Mar 26, 2010 14:42:21 GMT -5
It's probably been a week since I recieved an e-mail about the forum being Updated.
I don't see any threads on Page 1 of the general board.
If there are any threads about just what the Update has done on the board, could anyone direct me to them?
If not, can anyone tell me exactly what the Updates have done to change the board?
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Post by billd1 on Oct 4, 2009 16:00:47 GMT -5
The only problem with being a hermit is:
How do you pay for your living expenses?
Howard Hughes didn't have that problem, but for the average person who is not wealthy, the cost of living would be the first obvious problem for anyone wanting to become a hermit.
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Post by billd1 on Jun 22, 2009 16:42:20 GMT -5
Does anyone here read the magazine bimonthly magazine, Grit ? At one time it was in a newspaper format. If anyone wants to check it out, here's their URL: www.grit.com/grit-history.aspxReason I'm asking is, that I have 2 old articles from Grit's newspaper format days, about hermits. Also one wire story on a hermit. Anyone on SU interested in hermits? Anyone here ever been a hermit, or think of becoming one?
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Post by billd1 on May 8, 2009 15:34:18 GMT -5
On "You don't want to Sell Jesus to People?" thread, I mentioned being caught off guard, being totally speechless, when asked a question I never would have expected.
Well, sometimes, when we are asked questions we never would have expected, we do just the opposite, and answer the questions, when we should have not answered at all.
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Post by billd1 on May 6, 2009 15:22:58 GMT -5
On another thread (on doing your part to be part of a group), I mentioned my total disgust with how it is in life, that from the first grade, right on up to the end of your life, when you are in a group, you are expected to bring money into the group, by selling things.
I think a lot of the Shy United membership also feels this way, and, many people I have discussed it with, in person, have voiced the same feelings as me.
I started seeing a counsellor, who I thot was sympathetic, and told him how disgusted I was that whenever you joined a club, you were expected to sell things, saying in my most adamant voice of indignation and disgust:
"I DON'T WANT TO SELL ANYBODY, ANYTHING !!!"
A very gentle look came across the counsellor's face, and he said, in a very gentle voice:
"You don't want to sell Jesus to people?"
Well, that one really came out of left field. I never would have expected such a response, and I was totally speachless.
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Post by billd1 on Apr 3, 2009 16:22:16 GMT -5
I've reviewed my past posts, so I know that I have not discussed this social phenomenon before on this board, altho I suppose with so many posts, and members, maybe someone else has mentioned it.
When you are part of a group, you have to "do your part," to be part of the group.
And, the Number One Thing you have to do to Do Your Part, get MONEY for the group.
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Post by billd1 on Jan 30, 2009 16:44:41 GMT -5
Arizona said, on the thread about stereotyping shy people:
"What about movies and tv shows? Shy people are almost ALWAYS depicted as psychos whom you should be very wary of."
Have we discussed the film, ONE HOUR PHOTO on any of these boards?
If so, could someone bump the thread to the top?
Or, if not, I think we need a thread devoted to that film.
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Post by billd1 on Jan 12, 2009 16:48:32 GMT -5
Anybody on the board know anything about Asperger's Syndrome?
Any board members have that syndrome, or know someone who suffers from it?
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Post by billd1 on Jan 12, 2009 15:33:44 GMT -5
I don't know how many of us Shy United members think there is something wrong with ourselves, but how many of you are able to sense when there is something wrong with another person?
I think being able to sense when there is something wrong with another person is one of many senses people have, in addition to the long accepted 5 senses.
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Post by billd1 on Jan 8, 2009 15:02:41 GMT -5
Anybody here shy about sending greeting cards to people:
Sympathy cards, get well cards, birthday cards, thank you cards?
I want to act like a decent human being and show I care about others by sending them greeting cards, but everytime I have to do it, I delay it, and delay it, because it is so haaarrrdddd for me to even sign my name to the cards (I have, only on very rare occasions, written a brief note to the recipients. Normally, I just put my name on the card, and that is it).
Well, how about it, Shy United folks, does your shyness inhibit your sending greeting cards to friends & family, as it does with me?
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Post by billd1 on Jan 3, 2009 13:37:08 GMT -5
I'm just wondering if the test for shyness has been used very much, if at all, during the past 15 years?
During this time, have their been many, if any parents who themselves were shy, & wanted to have their kids tested, to see if their children might also have the same problem?
Or, is shyness a problem in the first place?
It's possible that an overanxious parent, who is shy & views shyness as a problem, who did have their kid tested, might then try to do all kinds of things to prevent shyness in their kid, and possibly end up causing more problems than they would prevent.
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Post by billd1 on Dec 30, 2008 15:23:19 GMT -5
Here is an item from my local newspaper, February 21, 1994.
Tests of infants detect shyness, researchers say
From Wire Reports
SAN FRANCISCO
Researchers say they can tell whether infants are likely to become shy or timid children by measuring their brain activity, skin temperature and reaction to strange objects.
In papers presented at the national meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, researchers said Saturday that timid or outgoing temperaments can be measured in babies as young as 4 months old.
These characteristics can stay with the child into the school years, researchers said. But they are not locked in for life.
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Post by billd1 on Dec 9, 2008 17:44:06 GMT -5
TELEPHONE SHYNESS
I remember back in my earliest years in grammar school, being so shy, I was too scared to call my friends on the telephone, so I would ask my mother to call my friends' residences, and ask if my friends were there, but of course, if they were, she would turn the phone over to me, and I'd be there when my friend came to the phone. She never said, "this is Bill's mother, calling for him. Is so-and- so there?" One guy told me when he got calls from me his mother said some lady was on the phone wanting to speak to him!
And, of course, he was right that some lady was on the phone, but she was only asking if he were there, so her son could speak to him.
I don't think I had that telephone shyness too long, and, eventually got over it. I don't remember Mother ever refusing to make those calls for me, and finally making an issue of it, and forcing me to make the calls for me, or anythng like that.
I probably just decided on my own to start doing the calling myself.
However, I have recently learned that telephone shyness extends into adulthood, in some cases afflicting people who are not necessarily social inadequates, but some who are quite successful in society, who have "made something of themselves," and have a good "place at life's table."
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