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Post by What Me Worry on Aug 26, 2004 22:07:14 GMT -5
The guy usually asks the girl out and if a guy is really shy, how is he going to do that? I read that short people have trouble getting dates too since women usually like their men to be an imposing figure – literally and figuratively. (Since taller men also make more money according several studies: $789 per inch per year more on average) The tall guy wins the initial “nothing said” bias women have but the outgoing guy is infinitely more likely to ask her out or talk to her.
So what is worse, a tall but extremely shy guy (6 feet and above) or the extremely short but outgoing guy? (Say he is 5’-3” or below)
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Post by the loser on Aug 27, 2004 12:06:54 GMT -5
in some cases this can be true. i know somebody at university and hes 5'5 and women are throwing them selves at him. he aint that good lookin as he has a bit of a mashed up face due to fights, but oh boy can he get the women. they literally throw themselves a him. where as for me 6'1 (aint bad lookin ive been told)and medium athletic build, i cant pull hardly any women. i am shy and only alcohol will make me talk to birds cos normally i will suffer from anxiety problems causing me to severly blush from uncontrolable embarassment. i dont know why it happens but i am easily embarassed for no reason. this guy on the other hand is full of confidence and talks to birds all the time and they seem to talk to him and get smoochy with him. i totaly envy him completely. once i return to university this october i am gonna chat to loads of ladies and try to be much more confident and outgoing and forget about the facial blushing problems. another point that i would like to make is that i have known lots of other people beneath 5'5 and they have attractive girlfriends. i am gonna have to get over this problem and forget about feeling nervy and anxious if i am to succeed.
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Post by sushiboat on Aug 27, 2004 22:21:44 GMT -5
The short, outgoing guy wins hands down. No contest.
A more interesting comparison is between a shy, beautiful woman and a plain, outgoing woman. I can see it going either way.
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Post by What Me Worry on Aug 27, 2004 22:21:44 GMT -5
Yea, I am told that I have an cute/above average looking face alone never mind that I am 6’-4” and muscular. I know several women, many of whom I was not attracted to, “like me.” No woman ever asked me out and I don’t expect them to because this is not the way “society” tells woman to behave like. Of course I was/am to shy to ask a woman out myself. My female relatives don’t understand why I have never had a date (other than I am extremely shy) because they all think I am cute and all know I am tall as I am the tallest in my extended family. It’s time likes these that I wish we were still living in the cave man era where I could just club a woman over the head and have my way with her. No hard socializing work, anxiety attacks, or anything to deal with! Boy that’d be sweet! However, I am just too much of a nice/shy guy to even think of trying that today. I hate to say it but I think we shy guys have it the worst in the dating world….. It seems like this for keys to NOT GETTING DATES: No Talk = No Date. “Sad But True”
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Post by What Me Worry on Aug 27, 2004 22:29:26 GMT -5
The short, outgoing guy wins hands down. No contest. A more interesting comparison is between a shy, beautiful woman and a plain, outgoing woman. I can see it going either way. I would have to go with the shy, beautiful woman over the plain, outgoing woman. I think that looks is the number one thing that gets women dates as long as the shy, beautiful woman makes herself even moderately visible. I would have to say that shy women are preferable to outgoing regardless on whether the man is outgoing or shy. (They are less socially intimidating, easier to please with social activities and less likely to cheat on you)
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 28, 2004 3:44:13 GMT -5
I have to say I would definitely prefer the tall shy guy to the short outgoing guy! Definitely! Of course, in real life I'm sure other factors would come into play too. For instance, intelligence is important, and just plain ol' mojo. And I wouldn't necessarily rule out a short guy either. But to be honest, I do like it when a guy is taller than me for some reason.
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Post by Purranha on Aug 29, 2004 12:25:19 GMT -5
I'd take a tall shy guy over a short outgoing guy anyday. To me tall is better then short and shy is better then outgoing.
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Post by What Me Worry on Aug 29, 2004 21:28:36 GMT -5
I have to say I would definitely prefer the tall shy guy to the short outgoing guy! Definitely! Of course, in real life I'm sure other factors would come into play too. For instance, intelligence is important, and just plain ol' mojo. And I wouldn't necessarily rule out a short guy either. But to be honest, I do like it when a guy is taller than me for some reason. Yeah, I thought ladies would prefer what you said too so that's what made it a close "toss-up." However, I think the short outgoing guy would get more dates because he will talk to women more even if the tall shy guy is more desirable.
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Post by sushiboat on Aug 29, 2004 22:04:29 GMT -5
Yeah, I thought ladies would prefer what you said too so that's what made it a close "toss-up." However, I think the short outgoing guy would get more dates because he will talk to women more even if the tall shy guy is more desirable. Exactly. You can't win if you never get past the starting line. For the women who say they like shy guys: how many shy guys and how many outgoing guys have you dated?
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Post by babygirl on Aug 31, 2004 18:35:31 GMT -5
I'd take a tall shy guy over a short outgoing guy anyday. To me tall is better then short and shy is better then outgoing. I agree with you 100%,I have never been attracted to short guys.So it would be the tall shy guy. ;D
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Post by What Me Worry on Aug 31, 2004 21:29:56 GMT -5
What do you think would a good line for a tall shy guy to say to a girl?
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Post by Kitten on Sept 1, 2004 9:20:13 GMT -5
I factor in other aspects of a guy's personality other than just being simply shy or not shy--like intelligence, for instance, the ability to laugh and have fun, kindness, compatibility---but if all else is equal, I'd go with the short outgoing guy. At 5'5", I'd want a guy to be at least my height--which most guys are--but it's not a deal-breaker if he's a little shorter. My boyfriend is 5'7", not tall for a guy, but I really could care less. He's hot and I love him anyway. Would I like him to be taller? Yeah, it wouldn't hurt. But there's so much more to a person that just their height. My boyfriend is caring, funny and outgoing, and has no problem voicing his opinion or standing up for himself (and for me) when he needs to. I need him to be able to communicate with me openly and honestly, not beat around the bush. When we're around friends, he makes me feel at ease and keeps the conversation flowing better than if it were just me, which helps a lot. As far as "lines"--how about "hi"? It shows interest without being overbearing, and it puts the ball in her court. Ask her for the time, maybe, compliment her watch (if she's wearing one). Just be sincere. I'm no great conversationalist myself, but telling someone that you like their watch/shirt/bracelet and where they got it is usually a good way to start a convo.
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 1, 2004 21:10:53 GMT -5
As far as "lines"--how about "hi"? It shows interest without being overbearing, and it puts the ball in her court. Ask her for the time, maybe, compliment her watch (if she's wearing one). Just be sincere. I'm no great conversationalist myself, but telling someone that you like their watch/shirt/bracelet and where they got it is usually a good way to start a convo. Darn... I was hoping for some magical line that I could use just because I am tall to give me an advantage – a line that would get the girl to literally drool over my toes. lol I guess I could try that when I decide the time is right but at this rate might be never.
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Post by Tall guy on Sept 4, 2004 2:11:52 GMT -5
I'm also tall and i hate that. I wish I was shorter
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Post by Cactus on Sept 4, 2004 2:56:16 GMT -5
I'm short and I wish I was taller, but there's really no point in wishing it because I can't change it. I think tall guys can be just as attractive as short guys no matter how shy or outgoing. A person isn't all about individual traits or qualities. Every person is a package deal and every package is different. I do agree with the idea of no words=no dates though. If you don't ask, you don't get unless you get a really confident girl making the moves on you.
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