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Post by Lonely Heart on Nov 21, 2004 8:01:04 GMT -5
KFC is tasty and good looking girls work there! ;D
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chris
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Post by chris on Nov 21, 2004 22:48:25 GMT -5
I got the "KFC" and all I need is "U"
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Post by old free guy on Nov 24, 2004 22:58:31 GMT -5
Journal #2 I have the natural tendancy to talk too much about my plans but zero actions. So I ordered 4 books on shyness and 10 simple solutions to shyness have arrived.
Reviewer said 10 simple solutions are sure to work for those willing to make the neccessary commitment to self-change.
22-nov-04 ~ 28-feb-05 my summer holiday, I hope I will make some changes.
Currently looking for summer jobs, at this agency students get 3 job referral max everyday. I still scared of calling the company..but I did call them and felt good about myself. My success is calling them, doesn't matter if I got the job or not .Eventually I will be less nervous and find my job.
Look on the bright side if i don't get a job on the day I will have rest of the day to read and practice my social skills. Just do it.
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Post by glenn miller on Nov 25, 2004 7:56:21 GMT -5
that is the way to go
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Post by old free guy on Feb 20, 2005 19:18:04 GMT -5
today is 21 Feb, the first day of new semester.
I went to this lecture in the morning and he said something really make a deep impression in me.
He said something like the decisions you make now is not based on the past. BTW this is an accounting paper. He was talking about management decision making. From now whatever decision I make will not be influenced by the past. Because the past is gone and all that terrible memories will not be beating me down.
Then this made me think, that for a long time in my life, I have no social life and dont have any friends. I tried hard last year at school to pass my course and try to make friends. I made some improvement and hope this year will help me get ride of my shyness forever !!
Good luck to me and you for the changes you/me are about to take.
End of rant/diary
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Post by old free guy on Feb 22, 2005 3:08:00 GMT -5
Tonite is 2nd day of new semester. I am still alone, eating lunch by myself, I failed to make friends. I don't know anyone and don't have their number.
I am starting to have the terrible feeling that I am inferior and I hate this negative thought. I want to approach girls to start a good conversation.
I feel so scared because I don't know what to say. There are so many exercises to train to become good small talk / conversationalist. All I can do is dream about having a conversation with people that I want to become friends with.
Fear of rejection and not performing well, the need to be accepted and praised IS UNREALISTIC. I need to read and go over social anxiety exercises to help me combat this fear and unreal expectation.
Tomorrow is the 3rd day and I will NOT FEAR.
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Post by wakeryder on Feb 22, 2005 8:05:50 GMT -5
makefriends25 same here. when i was in school. it was real hard. i had no friends.
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Post by lsdima4 on Feb 22, 2005 11:11:37 GMT -5
Dude, forget about small talk You probably need to start with eye contact and saying hi Can you keep eye contact with a girl?
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Post by old free guy on Feb 22, 2005 23:58:30 GMT -5
3rd day of school. There's a few girls that have same and class as me. The morning had 2 consective class and I think next week I have greater chance.
Then end of 2nd class a pretty girl was in the hall way and I couldn't think of anything to say to her. I don't know what's suitable to say in that situation. Maybe a Hi, do you need to buy text books ? What papers are you taking ? And maybe I'll tell her I have same class as her then introduce myself.
I over analysis, making eye contact and say Hi then follow up with small talk. Thanks for the advice lsdima4
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Post by old free guy on Mar 4, 2005 19:32:11 GMT -5
End of 2nd week. This Saturday I got no plans as usual and when I have time I still don't know what to do to enjoy my day. I think I should goto the library and return books. Then borrow books on tourism and other interest. Maybe do a 3 hours of study. Staying home is safe and going out is a risk.
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Post by old free guy on Mar 8, 2005 22:36:46 GMT -5
Today is a nice day. I went out to lunch with my friend I made last year. This is a result of me approaching her about school stuff. Of course things will get better when I can have conversations with more classmate this year.
The lunch went well I think, I was quiet most of the time because my lack of life to talk about. She was nice and told me about her recent stories. We enjoyed a nice meal without much conversation. Do I think I could do better next time ? Yes, I hope I could be more articulate. And I think I was stupid for being so quiet. She didn't really mind and that's why I like her. Not pushie or demanding.
Last Sunday I also asked out a new friend for walk on beach. She is friend of my brother and we met each other twice before. She is a down to earth person and we just chatted about normal stuff like what our family is like, what our hobbies are, what we did in the past and other stuff. We bought something to eat during late afternoon and she paid for it. So I could ask her out again and treat her to a lunch or seomthing. This would be a nice excuse or reason to ask her out for social.
This weekend is gonna be good because I think I am more confident and perhaps I'll manage to make more friends.
At school I didn't make any friend but the problem is not on me. It's because they are not looking for new friends, they are safe in their own group and don't go out of their way to meet new people. I am gonna focus on my study and do my best to learn about my course.
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Post by CaryGrant on Mar 10, 2005 18:31:35 GMT -5
I admire your positive attitude. It's quite natural (in my experience) to take some steps forward and then slide back some, too. Keep going!
I agree with lsdima - if you can't make small talk in a situation, make sure you at least smile, say Hi, make eye contact - whatever you can manage in those circumstances. That will become comfortable, and then you can build.
I wouldn't give up on the people at school. It can be difficult to get into established groups, but I doubt that everyone at school is happily and fully befriended. Get into some groups, even if you're on the outskirts at first. It will help you feel comfortable in groups, you'll be able to observe others' behaviour, and sometimes it takes time and presence to be accepted.
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Post by old free guy on Mar 13, 2005 6:59:17 GMT -5
It's Monday 1 am the start of 4th week of semester. Last week was terrible I didn't wake up in time for lecture and didn't try to talk to any class mate. So I guess I need to give myself some motivation and follow the school work. The school stuff is more important, making friend and socialising will happen if I get lucky.
I will be still going to the gym and relieve stress. As long as I keep myself busy with study and training I will live my day to the fullest. Time to sleep.
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Post by mario winans on Mar 13, 2005 13:06:51 GMT -5
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Post by old free guy on Mar 15, 2005 9:13:20 GMT -5
I wish I had better things to write in my diary. So far I don't think I will make friends in my accounting class. Everyone is so boring and don't care about other people in class. People studying accounting have quiet and boring personality.
In my mind I already think everyone don't need me. Then why can't I be myself ,or worry about what other classmate think or telling me that I am a loner.
7 Month to go and I feel powerless to change my situation. I know what I should do but I don't have the will power to do the right thing. I kind of hate school because you only see these people. I should find some way to meet people outside school. People in school are boring and unfriendly. I better think more realistic then optimistic.
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