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Post by Medici on Mar 15, 2005 15:27:02 GMT -5
Don't give up on us MakeFriend25! Have you tried getting a part time job on the campus? Try that, but make sure its in a place like the library or student union where a lot of other students work and spend time. Seriously.
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Post by old free guy on Mar 16, 2005 8:43:53 GMT -5
It's about 2:30 am in the morning, last few days I have poor sleep pattern and couldn't sleep normally. Dreaming about what could happen if I took some risk and talked to strangers during last year. I know I throw away many chances... and wonder about what could happen if I took these risk.
BTW thanks for kind words Medici, I am not being negative about what's happening in school. I am only being realistic, I should look somewhere else for friendship because people in my class are so hard to approach. Part-time job would give me a confidence boost. I feel incompetent when applying for job. I should challenge myself and take 3 risks everyday.
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Post by old free guy on Mar 20, 2005 13:48:21 GMT -5
Time is precious when it's gone. I want to change the way I use time. I could do different things to change my behaviours. I focus on the weak area of my life and couldn't get out of the self-doubt trap. Change my focus and search for what's great within my life.
How can I make friends and enjoy the process ? How can I enjoy my time in school and make unforgettable and happy memories ? What could I do to make my day fun ?
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Post by CaryGrant on Apr 10, 2005 20:36:18 GMT -5
Those are healthy, positive questions to ask yourself. That type of questions helps to open you to possibilities...don't get down on yourself if your progress is slower than you'd like!
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Post by old free guy on Jul 18, 2005 11:30:15 GMT -5
What I am feeling now
I feel lost and have no direction in the last few monthes.
No result, no nothing, not even taking any risk. I probably hit the lowest time of the my study. Luckly I passed all the courses.
I didn't do anything, except thinking too much and confuse myself. Looking back,I can't believe what I said in my diary actually are useful and remind myself what I should do to improve myself.
What is current situation
Today is first and last term of study, I better give it all I got and leave no regret. We were doing self-introduction and I was the last person to tell about myself. I chocked when people look at me so I messed it up. What I really wanted to say is. I wanted to talk about myself and what I believe in first. And lastly give out my name.
But the lecturer interrupted me and asked what is my name. I don't know what I am talking about, I think my plan was to present myself first then give my name out last.
Then people started to look at me and it was kinda of hard to breath and I was acting weird. But that's cool, that is a good mistake and I learned something from it.
Sometime thinking about my self-introduction is not enough and I must practice a few times. I should write down a little self-introduction and practice it a little bit.
What I want to achieve in the remaining semester
Self-worth and self-confidence
Speaking better
Three friends
A job
A girlfriend
An unforgettable memory
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Post by old free guy on Jul 19, 2005 13:22:08 GMT -5
Got up early today.I have a couple daydreaming ideas involving speaking, I wonder why I don't act them out ?
Compared to young children, they usually have no fear. But I'm not children ? I'm such a guy who wants to do a lot of wild thing but fears too much and think over & over again what would happen.
I have many crazy ideas and it would be allowable/acceptable only if I'm drunk and young. Yeah life is boring, without friend ? I guess that is an easy excuse, a funny & witty guy can have fun without friends.
I'll do my best and live today to the fullest. Yeah I will.
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Post by old free guy on Jul 21, 2005 5:49:39 GMT -5
Things are slowly getting better. I have a few month to learn and grow more. I still think there are winner and losers in the world. I would hate to be the loser and living unfufiled life.
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Post by old free guy on Aug 8, 2005 6:28:40 GMT -5
A natural social interaction today at school.
I was walking toward the elevator and made eye contact with a guy standing in front of the elevator door. Maybe he felt uncomfortable with me looking at him from the eye contact. He said some one liner, i dont remember what it was but it was his way of ease the tension of the silence.
It's a natural thing to do, what else could we do if we just standing there waiting for the elevator and said nothing.
Anyway he ask some short question and i answer them back When he left the elevator he said "goodbye" to me and I felt kinda of happy coz he acknowledged my presence... It would be the same as every time at elevator, if he didnt say anything and we got off the elevator separately, but the point is, he start some interaction and i find it friendly.
i couldnt forget this little events and the fact is he showed me ...
how great it would be to show a little bit of friendly-ness and be receive positive feedback.
well that was good learning experience but too short and didnt happen often enough.
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Post by old free guy on Aug 26, 2005 8:55:14 GMT -5
Dear diary. It's been a long time since I started going back to study. It was Feb last year and now I am graduating soon. I feel I cant change myself, because of fear or environment ?? I cant change myself because I am trapped in my own prison for so long.
And my internal beliefs ( self-doubt) are eating away my enthusiasm.
It's time for a new strategy and new goals.
I got to ask myself tough questions and I will have to find the answer.
What is it I want in life currently ?
What do I have to do to get it ?
Who can help ?
Where do I find help ?
What should I do ?
How can I change myself into a better person ?
How do I find love ?
How can I turn my past into my strength and stop the resentment from past ?
How can I begin to live ?
How do I reach my goals ?
How can I stop feeling low and have the passion for everything in my life ?
How can I start taking actions instead of planning and talking about what I am going to do ?
How do I make friend and stop distrust everyone ?
How do I communicate my feelings freely to everyone ?
What is wrong with me ?
Is there anything wrong with me ?
How can I start making good decisions and choice ?
Why do I feel like a loser sometimes ?
Why do I feel empty toward other people ?
Why didnt I make more friends ?
GET A LIFE !!!
I want to get a life but I kept making excuses.
When can I stop making excuses and do something about it ?
I'm tired of making excuses like everyone else that failed. They always say they have shyness and that's why they cant do it.
I dont think I have shyness anymore but why cant I have more friends ? Why cant I find love ? WHY ?
What is the point of all this ?
What is the point of all this ?
What is the point of all this ?
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Post by lily on Aug 27, 2005 1:09:08 GMT -5
Why are you calling yourself 'old free guy', when you're supposedly 25?
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Post by old free guy on Sept 4, 2005 7:11:10 GMT -5
Why are you calling yourself 'old free guy', when you're supposedly 25? It's just a useless name with no special meaning. |
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Post by old free guy on Sept 7, 2005 4:27:37 GMT -5
I have looked at this web site and it has some user feedback about getting confidence.
It was a challenge where the forum user post their results, I am start this exercise of saying hi to 50 strangers in 1 week. Today I didn't say hi to any ppl.
I think I'm too scared...and my eye contact sucked...the stranger looks more frightening when I tried to establish eye contact.
Yeah Im gonna keep trying this exercise. I believe I can do it.
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Post by old free guy on Sept 11, 2005 10:37:00 GMT -5
Dear Diary
Everything I did or happened to me is in the past. There are painful & happy times, I always daydreamed of what I would do if I could turn back the clock and arrive at my early teenage year. I would do everything differently.
However, that's not possible. All I can do is change the present, the moment I am at.
I strongly believe I can reach my full potential, I have strong desire to defeat my shyness and let it become my past.
It's being 19 month since I started my journey to beat shyness. There's something I learned but I couldnt describe what exactly I have learned. I supppose I have learned to changed my mindset. My mindset was unmotivated, and was nor happy or sad about my life, I had no desire to change myself.
I have changed. I am on my way to create the life I wanted.
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Post by coldchain228 on Sept 17, 2005 12:36:31 GMT -5
wow. You definitely have the right mindset to overcome your shyness, with hard work and determination you will succeed. Its a long process but you are on the right track. I can relate to you in some way. I spent my entire High school like a recluse with no friends and no social life. I have spent the last year trying to overcome my shyness but sometimes i fail miserably, and become kinda depressed.
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Post by old free guy on Sept 25, 2005 4:10:49 GMT -5
This is going to be my last post for Shy United.
Let me think back about my actions. I can't believe time went by so fast. I quit my job around early 2004 and went back to school to get my qualification. It's about 20 month since I tried to do something about my shyness and lack of friends.
Whatever happened to my past is gone and I can only learn from it. The experience was painful but what doesn't kill you can only make you stronger. We all make mistakes but don't let the mistake become your baggage.
I got too much excuse and sick and tired of the lies I tell myself.
Now I have changed my thinking to more positive. I believe I can get ride of my shyness and become sociable. It's ok to make social mistakes, it's not the end of the world. We got too scared of making mistakes and stopped trying.
Do I want short-term pain or life-long pain ? Of course I will choose short-term pain, humiliation, and rejections to make a GOOD future for myself.
I know it will be the best and most rewarding time of my life in the next 5 month. Why ? Because I have improved myself over the last 2 years, and I am ready for more exciting challenges.
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