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Post by Richard Cunningham on May 21, 2005 16:14:02 GMT -5
[quote In my own experience and from what i've seen of women, it seems to be the bitches that end up being the doormats, not the other way around. So i'm not sure what the author means here. it would be nice if that were true, but around here they seem to be doing ok since i see them driving expensive vehicles with bumper stickers that say things like 'I am not A bitch, I'm THE bitch... and it's Miss Bitch to YOU!' I've never seen a bitch doormat. They're not welcoming.
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Post by annaa on Jun 30, 2005 17:25:24 GMT -5
This is an interesting topic. People constantly tell me "You're too nice!". I think it maybe that i've got such a low self-esteem, i'm working extra hard to make sure that people like me.
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Post by annaa on Jul 1, 2005 18:26:03 GMT -5
This is an interesting topic. People constantly tell me "You're too nice!". I think it maybe that i've got such a low self-esteem, i'm working extra hard to make sure that people like me. You could take the attitude that it's ok to be an asshole. Oh belive me, I wish I was an asshole. I just can't bring myself to be unkind to people for no real reason.
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Post by wagnerr on Jul 1, 2005 18:41:20 GMT -5
Oh belive me, I wish I was an asshole. I just can't bring myself to be unkind to people for no real reason. Don't become an asshole!! Nice girls are always preferable over bitches.
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Post by annaa on Jul 1, 2005 18:51:55 GMT -5
Oh belive me, I wish I was an asshole. I just can't bring myself to be unkind to people for no real reason. Don't become an asshole!! Nice girls are always preferable over bitches. Right. That's what I thought.
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 1, 2005 18:52:18 GMT -5
Oh belive me, I wish I was an asshole. I just can't bring myself to be unkind to people for no real reason. Don't become an asshole!! Nice girls are always preferable over bitches. I second that remark
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 1, 2005 18:57:25 GMT -5
Don't become an asshole!! Nice girls are always preferable over bitches. I second that remark I know people say that but why is it the bitches seem to have everything handed to them on a silver platter?
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 1, 2005 19:01:52 GMT -5
I second that remark I know people say that but why is it the bitches seem to have everything handed to them on a silver platter? Maybe it less the case that its handed to them more the case that they just take it.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 3, 2005 8:00:31 GMT -5
I guess I mean bitches by the way they behave.
For example: daughter's good friend. She is 22 years old has 3 kids and just got married around 3 weeks ago. She has lived with the guy she married probably 3 years? She says she is bored with marriage and thinking about a divorce and wonders if she can get alimony. She says she can get about $900 a month from child support and welfare and not have to work. If that wasn't bad enough, she is flirting with some guy at her hair salon. Of course she doesn't work and the guy suports her and the kids and she keep reproducing so she doesn't have to work.
The thing is there is always another guy waiting around who will put up with this type of shit while the nice girl who would treat a guy nice, gets overlooked.
Plus I've been a witness to nice girl is with some guy for years and no marriage and then he dumps her and marries a total bitch 6 months after they meet.
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 3, 2005 8:12:14 GMT -5
Well unfortunately the bad people in society just see the nice people as something to step over to get what they want.
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Post by wagnerr on Jul 3, 2005 18:51:07 GMT -5
Well, women can lead men on for one thing. Bitches tend to do this. They also tend to be easier to 'do' physically, and this can be a plus for short while, given the correct type of guy. Easy women attract men, because they are willing to do it, and not be so fussy about it. However, these easy women become bitches. Perhaps it's a case of transferance. I don't know. Also, a lot of guys tend to be attracted to more aggresive women, or 'bad girls'. As Paul said earlier, they take the plate, not get it handed to them. Bad girls in the begginning are more attractive than shy or queit girls, i'll admit this. Men can often become really confused by shy girls, and can interpret their unwillingness to communicate their needs or desires clearly. Bad girls, on the other hand, always communicate what they want clearly. This is a plus for most men. We want women that communicate clearly to us what they want. But like Pnats said earlier, these bad girl bitches are always attracting other guys, and become spoiled by the attentions of men. This is why, in the long run, i'd prefer nice, shy girls for wives, and i'm not the only one who thinks this way. Bad girl bitches also tend to be hard to keep, and require high maintenance. I wouldn't want to pay alimony for a future ex-wife who i knew couldn't support herself financially, or to find a wife that'll probably just cheat on me because she's extremely hot and fully concsious of her desireability. ::)This is why i'd prefer intelligent, or at least hard working, women. Does that shed any light for you Pnats?
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Jul 4, 2005 15:55:02 GMT -5
This is an interesting topic. People constantly tell me "You're too nice!". I think it maybe that i've got such a low self-esteem, i'm working extra hard to make sure that people like me. Yeah, i'm the same way .
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Post by Medici on Jul 31, 2005 0:39:25 GMT -5
I think we have a shortage of nice people. But then there are people who act nice only to hold it over you at some later time. So in reality they aren't nice, just patronizing and manipulative.
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Post by cradith on Oct 29, 2006 16:24:02 GMT -5
I know what you mean about being too nice. I am trying to change that and my husband does not like it. He does not like the fact that I no longer jump for him. He does not drive so I usually have to go pick him up cigarettes, I used to go as soon as he asked even if it ment I went in my pyjamas, now I make him wait until I'm ready to go and now that we have a child I find it easier to speak up and let him know that he has too wait. It is ironic that if I ask for something to be done right away he comes up with all types of excusses.
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Post by cradith on Oct 29, 2006 16:34:11 GMT -5
My husband has told me that I am not nice to him any more because Iwon't put up with his crap any more. I let him have it when he says something that hurts me and tells me that I'm too sensitive and I tell him that he knew that when he married me. He believes that he should not have to be careful how he talks to people, his boss has reprimanded him a few times for it but he does not think he has a problem. If I talk to him the way he talks to me he will let me know that I am not being nice and I tell him now he knows how it feels but he does not think that he talks down to me at times.
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