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Post by skyhint on Oct 29, 2006 16:43:56 GMT -5
I know what you mean about being too nice. I am trying to change that and my husband does not like it. He does not like the fact that I no longer jump for him. He does not drive so I usually have to go pick him up cigarettes, I used to go as soon as he asked even if it ment I went in my pyjamas, now I make him wait until I'm ready to go and now that we have a child I find it easier to speak up and let him know that he has too wait. It is ironic that if I ask for something to be done right away he comes up with all types of excusses. Oh my lord, what a jack ass.
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Post by cradith on Oct 31, 2006 20:42:59 GMT -5
I had to explain to my husband why I need more than him in my life. He has people calling him all the time to do things with them but always makes excusses not to go. Ever since we got married he dropped all his friends since he says he only needs me. He hardly even speaks to his family and ignores the phone when it rings. When anyone invites me anywhere I jump at the chance to go. When my mother passed away he wanted me to choose between him and my father and 9 times out of ten I choose my father which ticked my husband off since he said he needed comforted too. I would tell him to come with me but he does not like family obligations. I have stopped trying to make him come to my Dad's when I go, I just go on my own . If there is something I want to do I usually go by myself for call a friend to go with them. Lossing my Mum 4 years ago made me realize that life is too short and if the person that you are with does not want to do anything but play computer games when he is not at work then sorry I have better things to do with my life than sit home with him and watch him play all day. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and there are times when I will stay home and keep him company, but I don't do it as much as I used to. Since I am starting to find it very boring, especially when it is a beautiful day outside and I want to be in it. I really hate it when people write articles and make generalizations. Cause as you can see I have not given up everything for my husband. In the beginning I may not of seen people or did alot of things I used to but isn't that what sometimes happens to people when they are in love.
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Post by cradith on Oct 31, 2006 20:46:47 GMT -5
I guess I should have read more of the post since I posted yesterday. Yes this is the same husband that skyhint called a jackass. Which reminds me I better go and pick him up from work. But first I will clean out the computer history since he would not understand why I am on this forum.
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Post by alwaysalone on Nov 2, 2006 15:52:53 GMT -5
Nothing that I know of, Ms. Pnats. If a guy doesn't like an intelligent woman, it's his loss. Maybe they're confusing "intelligence" with "submissive". I don't know. Just guessing.
My ex was a "nice" guy, but to everyone else. And I got the leftovers!!!
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Post by cradith on Nov 3, 2006 18:03:01 GMT -5
Picked my hubby up from work last night he told me that he missed me while he was at work, I thought okay things could get interesting. As soon as we get in he mentions that he is going on computer and hopes I don't mind since he had a rough day. What was I suppose to say this is becoming too muchof a pattern and it is always the same excuse.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Nov 3, 2006 18:48:02 GMT -5
I know what you mean about being too nice. I am trying to change that and my husband does not like it. He does not like the fact that I no longer jump for him. He does not drive so I usually have to go pick him up cigarettes, I used to go as soon as he asked even if it ment I went in my pyjamas, now I make him wait until I'm ready to go and now that we have a child I find it easier to speak up and let him know that he has too wait. It is ironic that if I ask for something to be done right away he comes up with all types of excusses. It sounds like he needs to grow up a little. I never could figure out the reasoning behind two grown people sharing a house and usually the man, feels he is entitled to do nothing. What makes him exempt from helping out around the house? Then again ladies you start it. When you first get together you want to play wifey and do everything for him.
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