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[wapwawet]

Dec 24, 2008 16:20:08 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Yeah, nothing more awkward than being thrown down into the abyss when they reject you because they're seeing someone. And asking them is also very difficult^^.

She didn't reject me, I never asked her out.

[pnoopiepnats]

Dec 24, 2008 16:47:01 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 24, 2008 16:20:08 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Yeah, nothing more awkward than being thrown down into the abyss when they reject you because they're seeing someone. And asking them is also very difficult^^.

they're not throwing you down into an abyss, you're throwing yourself down into an imaginary abyss you've constructed in your mind. someone you've never even gone out with or talked with to any great extent shouldn't be given that kind of power over your emotions. this is taking ultrasensitive to an extreme.

Yeah yet they continue to do this over and over.

Why not just ask around and find out if she is with someone or not?

Since being hot is all that seems to matter maybe girls should get $50k towards cosmetic surgery and a makeover instead of a college education. ;D

[rukryM]

Dec 24, 2008 16:47:01 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 24, 2008 16:20:08 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Yeah, nothing more awkward than being thrown down into the abyss when they reject you because they're seeing someone. And asking them is also very difficult^^.

they're not throwing you down into an abyss, you're throwing yourself down into an imaginary abyss you've constructed in your mind. someone you've never even gone out with or talked with to any great extent shouldn't be given that kind of power over your emotions. this is taking ultrasensitive to an extreme.

Whoever throws me down there doesn't matter, it's still a real and terrifying abyss. This kind of attitude just makes me not dare asking girls of anything, so I'm probably extremely ultrasensitive and whatever. It's still some sort of temporary {but ever so longlasting} Purgatory one has to sustain.

It's not always happening directly, other times it may be due to loss of contact and interest and things to say even though I try to be nice and attractive to them {without faking it, I'm the real me}. And it's hurtful.

[rukryM]

Dec 24, 2008 17:08:31 GMT -5 @pnoopiepnats said:

Dec 24, 2008 16:47:01 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

they're not throwing you down into an abyss, you're throwing yourself down into an imaginary abyss you've constructed in your mind. someone you've never even gone out with or talked with to any great extent shouldn't be given that kind of power over your emotions. this is taking ultrasensitive to an extreme.

Yeah yet they continue to do this over and over.

Why not just ask around and find out if she is with someone or not?

Since being hot is all that seems to matter maybe girls should get $50k towards cosmetic surgery and a makeover instead of a college education. ;D

You seem to be enjoying the power you've got towards the opposite sex.

[Naptaq]

I think we throw ourselfs down 'into the abyss' after a rejection of any kind.. and then laugh about it years later - or keep falling deeper into the abyss.. lol

[wapwawet]

Dec 24, 2008 11:08:12 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 24, 2008 9:58:56 GMT -5 @wapwawet said:

Well, I had to go to work to pick up my check today, as I was walking in I saw her and her (I assume) bf walking out. I was just going to walk past and not say anything, b/c of her bf there. But she went out of her way to say "merry christmas" to me. All I could manage was a low "you too." I was trying to forget about this problem on the holidays, I'll put it outta my head for the next two days, for the most part. But I'll still try and think of things to say to her. I have a limited time to get things started (1 month she goes to a diff shift).

i think it would be a better use of your time to make that appointment than it would be to pursue a women who's in a relationship. long-term it's more apt to bring you satisfaction.

Well, I can do both lol! Anyway, does it seem like I still have (concievably) a chance with this girl? I know I have to push myself out there and meet other girls, but...

[MrNice]

yes, there is a chance - its just as as big as with any other girl
just don't waste time - try it and if nothing happens move on, unless you enjoy suffering
you have to blatantly hit on her, and if she rejects you move on

[MrNice]

nothing more awkward than being thrown down into the abyss when they reject you because they're seeing someone.

that's one of the best cases for rejection IMO
it feels much worse getting rejected because she doesn't like you when it seems you two are a perfect match

[rukryM]

Nevertheless it's also very awkward when you're asking them and they say "Listen, you're sweet but {polite way of saying they have a boyfriend and that it's not going to happen anything more between the two of you}." Makes me blush and my skin colour turns more red than a tomato.

[pnoopiepnats]

Dec 24, 2008 17:34:33 GMT -5 rukryM said:

You seem to be enjoying the power you've got towards the opposite sex.

Why do you say that?

[rukryM]

Dec 24, 2008 19:02:18 GMT -5 @pnoopiepnats said:

Dec 24, 2008 17:34:33 GMT -5 rukryM said:

You seem to be enjoying the power you've got towards the opposite sex.

Why do you say that?

It seems to me like you're taking that rejection thing very lightly and dismiss it like it was just a trifle of some sort. Your joke on cosmetic surgery leads me into believing you're possessing knowledge on how to seduce guys and then reject them out of pure evilness.

[pnoopiepnats]

Dec 24, 2008 19:14:13 GMT -5 rukryM said:

It seems to me like you're taking that rejection thing very lightly and dismiss it like it was just a trifle of some sort. Your joke on cosmetic surgery leads me into believing you're possessing knowledge on how to seduce guys and then reject them out of pure evilness.

I don't think it has much to do with gender but rather the older you get most things you worried about when you were young become trifle.

The joke on cosmetic surgery has to do with you young guys basing everything on a girl's appearance and nothing else. The $50k in cosmetic surgery would more likely land a guy than any education, personality, or any other qualities a human would have.

[Sweet Pea]

Dec 24, 2008 19:14:13 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Dec 24, 2008 19:02:18 GMT -5 @pnoopiepnats said:

Why do you say that?

It seems to me like you're taking that rejection thing very lightly and dismiss it like it was just a trifle of some sort. Your joke on cosmetic surgery leads me into believing you're possessing knowledge on how to seduce guys and then reject them out of pure evilness.

i promise you that's not what she's doing. she's commenting on the superficiality and rejection she's experienced with men. you two actually are complaining about the same thing far as i can see.

[rukryM]

Dec 24, 2008 20:56:42 GMT -5 @pnoopiepnats said:

Dec 24, 2008 19:14:13 GMT -5 rukryM said:

It seems to me like you're taking that rejection thing very lightly and dismiss it like it was just a trifle of some sort. Your joke on cosmetic surgery leads me into believing you're possessing knowledge on how to seduce guys and then reject them out of pure evilness.

I don't think it has much to do with gender but rather the older you get most things you worried about when you were young become trifle.

The joke on cosmetic surgery has to do with you young guys basing everything on a girl's appearance and nothing else. The $50k in cosmetic surgery would more likely land a guy than any education, personality, or any other qualities a human would have.

Yeah, I got that, but the very fact that you're joking on this is because you seemingly believe youngsters are like that, and that's is not true for all of us. It's an inevitable fact that lads are more attracted to looks than women, but if the girl/woman is a self-centered cold bitch she'll automatically turn ugly on the outside too. There's more to life with a partner/spouse than just the looks, and though you might not want to believe it, the most shallow lads think like that too. I just get very upset when I encounter jokes on this matter, so sorry if I struck a nerve or anything .

And let's face it; young girls aren't any better than us boys. You might not be going that much after looks but rather for money, power, status, i.e. pursuing what they want the lad to be and slowly manipulating him into become their object for desire {I've heard more stories than the number of stars about this and experienced it too}.

So the bottom line is that I think girls are just as shallow as guys are, we're just shallow on different terms.

[wapwawet]

I like how the end of this thread talks about rejection--seems like a bad omen for me and my problem, lol!

Hopefully she'll be there tomorrow and I can say something suave and utterly amazing