Girl

[rukryM]

Yeah, it's the Eternal Damnation when they give you the Kiss of Death and then just walk away or something ^^. Let's just hope it doesn't happen to you, then.

[wapwawet]

Dec 26, 2008 6:06:34 GMT -5 rukryM said:

Yeah, it's the Eternal Damnation when they give you the Kiss of Death and then just walk away or something ^^. Let's just hope it doesn't happen to you, then.

Yeah I hope it doesn't happen to me either.

[wapwawet]

Well, she seemed in a really bad mood today, talked to me with a snarl (she came over to where I was working). I said "what's up?" and she just kinda looked at me, then after a minute she started talking about work stuff. Maybe I should just quit while I'm ahead?

[rukryM]

You've got to give her time, but if she always avoids personal and off-time matters, it should give you a hint of what she's thinking. Just don't kiss her ass, act natural and she how she responds.

[Sweet Pea]

Dec 27, 2008 10:43:26 GMT -5 rukryM said:

You've got to give her time, but if she always avoids personal and off-time matters, it should give you a hint of what she's thinking. Just don't kiss her ass, act natural and she how she responds.

actually, she may have made a play for him, she might feel hurt that he didn't reciprocate. shy people are notorious for unconsciously rejecting people they've sent 'i like you' signals to which have been reciprocated. she may never again talk to him about anything not work related because he has (albeit unintentionally) sent her a message that he's uninterested. it may take some brave gesture on his part at this point to let her know that he really is interested, otherwise she may just discount him as a possible romantic interest entirely. but who knows, i'm not there. i'm just making guesses based on what i know about the behavior of shy people.

[rukryM]

Dec 27, 2008 15:52:25 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

actually, she may have made a play for him, she might feel hurt that he didn't reciprocate.

And the very fact that she's feeling hurt because he didn't respond appropriately in her opinon is to start a play for him? That's just making it even more complicated^^.

[wapwawet]

Dec 27, 2008 15:52:25 GMT -5 Sweet Pea said:

Dec 27, 2008 10:43:26 GMT -5 rukryM said:

You've got to give her time, but if she always avoids personal and off-time matters, it should give you a hint of what she's thinking. Just don't kiss her ass, act natural and she how she responds.

actually, she may have made a play for him, she might feel hurt that he didn't reciprocate. shy people are notorious for unconsciously rejecting people they've sent 'i like you' signals to which have been reciprocated. she may never again talk to him about anything not work related because he has (albeit unintentionally) sent her a message that he's uninterested. it may take some brave gesture on his part at this point to let her know that he really is interested, otherwise she may just discount him as a possible romantic interest entirely. but who knows, i'm not there. i'm just making guesses based on what i know about the behavior of shy people.

Yeah, that makes sense. As far as the brave gesture goes....should I *gulp* touch her? She has done this to me before, but I don't know if it would be appropriate now?

[MrNice]

there is no point in trying to figure out what exactly you should do here. As sweet pea said, it would be better to concentrate on tackling shyness in general. Please understand that no matter what you do, there is very good chance it will not result in anything.

If you really want to tackle both issues, do something. Anything. Tell her she looks great today and see how she reacts.

[wapwawet]

Dec 27, 2008 17:56:01 GMT -5 MrNice said:

there is no point in trying to figure out what exactly you should do here. As sweet pea said, it would be better to concentrate on tackling shyness in general. Please understand that no matter what you do, there is very good chance it will not result in anything.

If you really want to tackle both issues, do something. Anything. Tell her she looks great today and see how she reacts.

So, in your view if there is very little chance things will happen why should I even attempt this? (with her).

[MrNice]

why should I even attempt this?

because you like her

also what is it exactly you think you are going to attempt?

[wapwawet]

Dec 27, 2008 18:33:08 GMT -5 MrNice said:

why should I even attempt this?

because you like her

also what is it exactly you think you are going to attempt?

haha, nothing bad I just meant in general (seeing if she likes me/eventually getting her to go out with me).

Also, what makes you think there is very little chance of anything happening. Because she has a bf?

[Richard Cunningham]

She's already seeing some dude.
Why waste time on someone who is taken?

Find someone else.
There must be others.

[pnoopiepnats]

To the OP, you seem to forget that she isn't available. She has a boyfriend. Why are you wasting time figuring out how to date someone who is taken?

[wapwawet]

Trying to figure out how to make her dump him fer me. Others have attempted it before, I'm sure.

[Richard Cunningham]

Dec 27, 2008 21:42:14 GMT -5 @wapwawet said:

Trying to figure out how to make her dump him fer me. Others have attempted it before, I'm sure.

You sound like a catch!

Expect the same to happen to you.