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Post by rukryM on Jan 6, 2009 18:23:09 GMT -5
Give him more time, and please...don't think all lads are like that^^.
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Post by airburst on Jan 7, 2009 0:52:15 GMT -5
Would you want the girl to lean over to kiss you? I don't speak for all guys, but I think it's incredibly sexy when a girl makes the first move for a hug, a kiss, sex, etc. It shows that she's into me and that she's enthusiastic about it. |
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Post by madiocre on Jan 8, 2009 17:51:44 GMT -5
Would you want the girl to lean over to kiss you? I don't speak for all guys, but I think it's incredibly sexy when a girl makes the first move for a hug, a kiss, sex, etc. It shows that she's into me and that she's enthusiastic about it. so much hope for us shy girls..... persinally imo i think a kisses are a moment thing the getting out of the car sorta makes it planned...if in the moment it feels right lean in if not itll be ok because its only the frist date...make sure there is more subtle interaction before though ....i think hand shakes are highly underated. |
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Post by rukryM on Jan 8, 2009 19:24:15 GMT -5
It it sexy but not at all necessary and requires timing and knowing when to do it.
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Post by Bodhi on Jan 8, 2009 19:56:37 GMT -5
I don't speak for all guys, but I think it's incredibly sexy when a girl makes the first move for a hug, a kiss, sex, etc. It shows that she's into me and that she's enthusiastic about it. so much hope for us shy girls..... persinally imo i think a kisses are a moment thing the getting out of the car sorta makes it planned...if in the moment it feels right lean in if not itll be ok because its only the frist date...make sure there is more subtle interaction before though ....i think hand shakes are highly underated. I've never heard a girl advocate handshakes on a date before, interesting. |
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Post by airburst on Jan 9, 2009 7:10:59 GMT -5
so much hope for us shy girls..... persinally imo i think a kisses are a moment thing the getting out of the car sorta makes it planned...if in the moment it feels right lean in if not itll be ok because its only the frist date...make sure there is more subtle interaction before though ....i think hand shakes are highly underated. I've never heard a girl advocate handshakes on a date before, interesting. I don't think I ever really shake hands with girls. I usually just do the smile and bow thing. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 9, 2009 11:52:04 GMT -5
I've never heard a girl advocate handshakes on a date before, interesting. I don't think I ever really shake hands with girls. I usually just do the smile and bow thing. i like to shake hands when i meet people. but i think on a date it would prolly feel like the kiss of death lol. |
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Post by brightestdark on Jan 11, 2009 19:57:20 GMT -5
Ok, so I heard from him. He came on msn a couple of nights ago and ended up mentioning that he is sort of seeing his ex again after hooking up with her last weekend when they got drunk. Great! That said, he then said he didn't want to get involved with her again and it didn't feel right, and when I asked why they broke up he said she was self-obsessed and only seemed like she wanted to see him when she had nothing else on. I asked if he was still gonna meet up with me at the end of the month as planned or not, if he's seeing her. He said he still wants to meet up. He then said he would like to meet me before then. He actually suggested this weekend, but it was a little late notice, so we've agreed to meet next weekend.
I'm a bit worried about him having feeling for his ex, hooking up with her and whether he's still actually seeing her (I will ask him when we meet). I'm hoping he's decided to definitely not get involved again. I'm also paranoid he won't be attracted to me when we meet as I don't think I look as good in real life as in my pix online. Maybe that's my low self-esteem, but I do think I look way better in pix and only put my best ones online.
I got his number incase I have a delay on the way there as I'll be getting the train (he did ask if I wanted to meet nearer me but I said we could meet in the city). When he was gonna log off msn he said 'text me if you want'. so I did text him yesterday and he texted back.
I guess we'll see what happens at the weekend...
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Post by nelo on Jan 11, 2009 23:07:52 GMT -5
Sounds interesting, but personally, I wouldn't have my hopes very high on that one.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 12, 2009 0:38:48 GMT -5
i dunno, sounds like it could be one of those situations in which she'll crook her finger and he'll go running...no matter what he says. i wouldn't do it because i won't settle for being someone's backup plan. also, people on the rebound are usually still processing the crap from their previous relationship and not really ready for a new one. if you just want to go out on a date and satisfy you're curiousity and you have nothing better to do, i'd say go for it. if you're looking for a serious ltr, i'd say forget it. he doesn't sound like a good bet.
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Post by solacefox on Jan 12, 2009 1:21:41 GMT -5
Yep, he's still playing 'peek-a-boo' with his ex. And please don't fall for the ol' "drunk" excuse, that's such a tired and flimsy line. Besides, who wants to be the rebound fling? Why waste your time with someone who seems to be using you as a spare? Not to sound hard nosed about it, but this sounds like high school stuff he's pulling, and it seems like he doesn't mind if you conveniently go along for the ride.  |
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Post by brightestdark on Jan 12, 2009 3:45:13 GMT -5
Maybe. He may have said that to see what my reaction would be - to find out if I was interested... I don't know. This is going to sound shallow but I looked at his pix on facebook and found some new ones from the new year and he doesn't look so good in them - so now I think I probably be attracted to him anyway. I think I am still gonna go and meet him and see how things are. If nothing else and I don't fancy him, it'll be good to have a new friend - as I'm shy and not that great at making new friends usually.
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Post by rukryM on Jan 12, 2009 12:18:42 GMT -5
At least don't have any expectations until he's got a total closure with his ex where he can assure he'll not go back to her. He's the one who's going to have to work now in order to make this happen, the way I see it.
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Post by Bodhi on Jan 12, 2009 23:36:24 GMT -5
Maybe. He may have said that to see what my reaction would be - to find out if I was interested... I don't know. This is going to sound shallow but I looked at his pix on facebook and found some new ones from the new year and he doesn't look so good in them - so now I think I probably be attracted to him anyway. I think I am still gonna go and meet him and see how things are. If nothing else and I don't fancy him, it'll be good to have a new friend - as I'm shy and not that great at making new friends usually. Well, truthfully, this is not going to end up in a friendship, at least i highly doubt it. Its either going to be a romantic type relationship or nothing, given the circumstances. That's just how most guy/girl relationships end up that start in this way, meeting over the internet with intentions on it being more. I personally question any guy that would tell a girl he wants to go out with that he hooked up with his ex the week before. Why would he tell you this? He sounds like a creep to me, sorry. |
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Post by brightestdark on Jan 14, 2009 19:19:57 GMT -5
Well he came on msn again tonight and we talked for another hour or two. Ended up telling me he's seeing his ex. Apparently he saw her Sat & Sun! I said 'so do you not want to meet this weekend?' and he was like 'No, I still want to meet!' I was like 'That's not very nice for your girlfriend, you meeting another girl', I was like 'I know we're only friends, but...' and he was like 'She has a lot of man friends too. She goes out with them on her own sometimes'. Hmm... So yeah, seems kinda weird... I was disappointed... but we carried on talking and we get on so well on msn it's crazy. I was laughing so much because we were saying funny things (well, they were kinda silly, but they made me laugh). I get the feeling he wants to meet me to see if he's attracted to me in real life anyway. He told me that when they split last time it was because she was still in love with her ex - who didn't want her. Also he said they split because they were seeing a lot of each other and it got too much (I told him you'd better not get too serious again then! I mean, they only dated for 4 months, so if they started annoying each other then, surely it's not gonna work out this time unless they don't see each other much). It's weird that he said on Friday that he didn't want to really get involved with her - and then he saw her both Saturday and Sunday. It's kinda weird because he asked to meet me on that Saturday - but it was too late notice, so I said no. Maybe if I had've gone to meet him things would be different and he wouldn't have seen her. I am gonna ask him more about the situation when we meet. I am still gonna go and meet him - I think if nothing more we WILL stay friends. We both have the same hobbies - like going to concerts (and the other meeting we have planned is for a concert the following weekend). On facebook he has comments from female friends he knows and seems like he's a friendly guy (to guys and girls). I told a couple of friends about him and they think he is interested in me (he said a couple of things that made me think he was interested, ie. comments about a couple of pix of me that I showed him and at one point he almost flirted but I changed the subject.)
I definitely don't want to get involved with a cheater. I probably won't be attracted to him when we meet anyway, but I will go to see how we get on. I do wish that he was single, and hadn't got back with his ex. Maybe if we get on really well he will decide to end it with his ex... I know that's probably just wishful thinking though. I'm jinxed when it comes to romance so I doubt I'm gonna have any luck here.
And back to the car thing. We've planned to go for a drink, and I think he'll be drinking - so I'm expecting him to not to drive and to maybe get the train into the city - so I'll just get the train home. I'll report back after we've met!
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