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Post by ball4yourout on May 7, 2008 21:40:45 GMT -5
There's this girl I know (albeit not very well) and I like her. I want to get to know her better and I'm sort of motivated to do something about it.
The difference between this and all other moments I've had is that this is one of the very few girls I've been attracted to and that I actually speak to! We say hi to each other any time we catch one another in any place. I'm not going to get my hopes up, but I'd really like to try this time.
Any advice on how to start?
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Post by MrNice on May 7, 2008 22:55:56 GMT -5
yeah - ask her out
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Post by ball4yourout on May 7, 2008 23:00:36 GMT -5
Ha ha, maybe more detailed advice would be nice.
Asking her out is my "strategic" objective. I need the "tactics."
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Post by MrNice on May 7, 2008 23:11:29 GMT -5
ok here is one - if you don't have her phone number - when you see her next time - say
"we should hang out sometime' - then when she responds 'yeah we should' you ask for her phone number - then you call her and suggest a time and place
or if you want to do it directly just say 'would you like to join me for a cup of tea'?
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Post by ball4yourout on May 8, 2008 13:43:59 GMT -5
I saw her today. I wasn't able to get anything going, but we continued our casual conversations. I really want to ask her out, though...
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Post by MrNice on May 8, 2008 13:54:48 GMT -5
do it the next time you see her
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Post by gaia on May 8, 2008 14:13:54 GMT -5
Sounds easy! What kind of place do you know her from (i.e. work, school, or through mutural friends) ? I'm just curious. |
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Post by ball4yourout on May 8, 2008 19:23:53 GMT -5
I know her from school. Semester is ending soon, though. I'm getting kinda antsy over this.
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Post by gaia on May 8, 2008 19:25:58 GMT -5
I know her from school. Semester is ending soon, though. I'm getting kinda antsy over this. Ah, this is what i'd wondered about.. (whether or not you have a "time limit"). Do you happen to have any mutual friends? |
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Post by ball4yourout on May 8, 2008 21:47:50 GMT -5
Not that I know of. This girl doesn't even have a Facebook profile (at least, not one I know of).
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Post by MrNice on May 8, 2008 23:22:37 GMT -5
look, forget all that - forget her friends forget facebook - I know you want to do anything except actually taking direct action to help your cause, but that is the best thing you can do
no matter what you do there is a good chance that nothing is going to happen - but you don't have to make something so simple complicated
its a good thing that you have a time limit - maybe it will give you that extra push to do something
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Post by strawberrysweetie on May 8, 2008 23:35:33 GMT -5
What are your "casual conversations" about exactly? Do you know her interests? Do you have the same taste in things?
What types of events are going on around campus or around the town? Look into things and the next time you talk to her, try to 'casually' bring it up.....and then hopefully that will push you into suggesting you two go together.
I actually agree with "MrNice" on this one.....really try to push yourself into asking her out. It sounds like a great opportunity for you!
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Post by ball4yourout on May 9, 2008 0:13:39 GMT -5
Casual conversations tend to be about school, our professional lives, etc. Very mundane things. She's a really nice person, but it was kind of difficult to get her to talk at first.
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Post by strawberrysweetie on May 9, 2008 1:23:57 GMT -5
Casual conversations tend to be about school, our professional lives, etc. Very mundane things. She's a really nice person, but it was kind of difficult to get her to talk at first. hmm.....perhaps you could suggest just hanging out after class? Do you both have a break afterwards? Is it around lunchtime? That would be convenient to use that to your benefit. Or, if that's not possible...use the end of semester stress to your benefit (or end of semester joy..). "hey, I say we should go out and celebrate....I know of this really great place to go to (or there's this really great place I'd like to try..) I'd really like you to come along, if you're interested..." Try to casually fall into the suggestion. |
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Post by ball4yourout on May 9, 2008 10:53:24 GMT -5
What makes this challenging is that I've never known or seen what its like to ask somebody out. I've never seen it in real life. Thus, all of this seems so foreign to me.
I don't feel too nervous about it, I feel like I could get it together, but still, its so strange to me.
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