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Post by Sweet Pea on May 14, 2008 10:43:55 GMT -5
I don't know her very well on the outside world. I know she doesn't live in a dorm. I can find out her E-mail via our mailing list, but I dunno... that'd be stalkerish. i don't see why.  |
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Post by MrNice on May 14, 2008 10:50:15 GMT -5
get her email and write to her ASAP!!!
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Post by ball4yourout on May 14, 2008 15:27:28 GMT -5
What the hell do I say? Sorry I stalked you, but...
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Post by etn on May 14, 2008 15:32:07 GMT -5
get her email and write to her ASAP!!! MrNice is right, don't hesitate any longer. Waiting has been your worst enemy in this situtation. I've ruined more than few chances myself because of waiting for just the right moment |
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Post by etn on May 14, 2008 15:36:53 GMT -5
What the hell do I say? Sorry I stalked you, but... How about starting with: Hi her name, it's your name from your mutual class... |
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Post by skyhint on May 14, 2008 15:42:55 GMT -5
What the hell do I say? Sorry I stalked you, but... How about starting with: Hi her name, it's your name from your mutual class... ooooh that is a good start. let me write the next sentance. How are you doing now that class is over? OK some one else write the next one. |
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Post by MrNice on May 14, 2008 15:48:56 GMT -5
Hi ... this is ... . How is it going? [some more crap here that is specific to her]
I enjoyed your company in class and thought we should hang out together.
Let me know if you are interested.
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go go go !!!!
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Post by etn on May 14, 2008 16:00:13 GMT -5
Hi ... this is ... . How is it going? [some more crap here that is specific to her] I enjoyed your company in class and thought we should hang out together. Let me know if you are interested. ... go go go !!!! Perfect! |
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Post by Sweet Pea on May 14, 2008 16:50:44 GMT -5
What the hell do I say? Sorry I stalked you, but... i don't get why you think this is stalking. you didn't hack into her computer to steal her email address. sheesh.  |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on May 14, 2008 17:54:06 GMT -5
The worst part is, I think I may have had a chance had I been able to ask her out. By this point, it seemed like she had really warmed up to me. She laughed at everything I said, listened to everything I said even if I wasn't speaking to her, and always caught her looking my way. I dunno, maybe I'm being dillusional. But I sure feel like I've got my head on straight. hmmm...I think this is good news...listen to your instinct. Definitely sounds like she may be interested in you. I agree the signs are there, at least. There is nothing stalkerish about sending her an e-mail, especially since you had a class together and actually spoke with one another. You've still got a chance...and e-mail would be an even easier way to ask someone out, imo. What have you got to lose by giving it a shot, anyway? You said yourself you may not ever see her again, so even if she doesn't accept the invitation, would that be so terrible? At least you could say you tried the best you could. Sure, there will be more chances with other girls...but why not give this a shot? You've already worked hard at trying to get her to speak to you. I really don't think you should give up on her quite yet! |
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Post by ball4yourout on May 14, 2008 18:03:30 GMT -5
There is nothing stalkerish about sending her an e-mail, especially since you had a class together and actually spoke with one another. Well, because I looked her up and I have no idea if she even wants to hear from me or not. What do I have to lose? Even more of my already poor self-esteem along with suffering incredible humiliation. This has really been my only real "chance." I do want to give this a shot, but I just feel so sick when I think about it. |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on May 14, 2008 18:22:29 GMT -5
There is nothing stalkerish about sending her an e-mail, especially since you had a class together and actually spoke with one another. Well, because I looked her up and I have no idea if she even wants to hear from me or not. There's no way to be %100 sure when it comes to dating and relationships. It's just a risk you're going to have to take if you want to get anywhere with anyone. And looking up someone's e-mail is no different from looking up someone's phone # in a telephone book. I'm betting there have been people who have asked others out via telephone back in the day. There really is no difference, imo. What do I have to lose? Even more of my already poor self-esteem along with suffering incredible humiliation. Would you really feel better not trying this and always wondering "what if" than had you actually tried and been politely turned down? What exactly do you forsee happening? It would be an e-mail between the two of you. I think you should focus on the success you've already had so far. You actually talked to people in class and got a girl to laugh at your jokes or remarks, whichever it was. That's awesome! This has really been my only real "chance." I do want to give this a shot, but I just feel so sick when I think about it. hmm...okay. I just could have sworn you've talked about another "chance" you've had. I definitely understand your anxiety about it....but I still think you should go for it, especially after getting her to become comfortable around you. IMO, you don't have anything to lose by sending her an e-mail. But, the decision is ultimately up to you. |
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Post by gaia on May 14, 2008 19:57:43 GMT -5
Would you really feel better not trying this and always wondering "what if" than had you actually tried and been politely turned down? What exactly do you forsee happening? It would be an e-mail between the two of you. I think you should focus on the success you've already had so far. You actually talked to people in class and got a girl to laugh at your jokes or remarks, whichever it was. That's awesome! Strawberry is absolutely right. I know you're fragile and so hesitant about this and that's understandable. As long as you are not so fragile that to be in a relationship right now would be damaging (e.g. your insecurities affecting the other person... being unable to speak up if the other person is treating you unfairly etc. etc.), you should break out of your comfort zone. You need to take chances. You have to ask for something before you can get it - as nice as it would be, people don't always know what you want and can't help you out until you tell them. The "stalker" thing to me shouldn't be something to worry about because she's fresh on your mind. In my opinion, the longer you leave things the more 'stalkerish' it might seem. To receive an e-mail from you now could be nice for her... in a few months time, she's likely to think "How random...". See? The advice given above on what to say to her is all good stuff. Just do what you feel comfortable with and good luck. |
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Post by ball4yourout on May 14, 2008 21:23:07 GMT -5
I feel so damn nervous even typing this.  Here's how I really feel. I think that if I E-mail her and things go south, then I'm not going to feel good about it for a long time. However, if I don't E-mail her, then I'm going to feel very bad about it for a long time as well because I had opportunities literally handed to me and I never got it together. There's no third option, so the chances of me feeling bad about this whole thing are pretty much equal. I really want to send her that E-mail. I really do. But I'm just too afraid it won't matter much in the end. |
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Post by etn on May 14, 2008 21:27:12 GMT -5
Also, keep in mind that when it come to dating and relationships, alot of it is trial and error. Everyone makes mistakes in this department it's totally natural.
Remember, the girls you didn't hear about Don Juan wooing are the ones that turned him down.
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