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Post by gals on Jan 31, 2011 1:55:37 GMT -5
How do you feel about unrequited love?
It may not be considered a relationship because it's a one-sided love, as they say.
It may be the most painful love coz it's the love left unshown, unexpressed.
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Post by agenericgirl on Jan 31, 2011 2:16:30 GMT -5
it sucks.
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Post by Scotty on Jan 31, 2011 17:14:04 GMT -5
It's my hobbie...apparently. I second that "it sucks".
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Post by Sigh on Jan 31, 2011 18:19:14 GMT -5
Thread title made me think of Helga from Hey Arnold lol.
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Post by Robbie88 on Jan 31, 2011 19:40:21 GMT -5
It sucks really. For me personally the worst part of it all is that there are always those moments where I get all optimistic and happy thinking that maybe she likes me back or whatever...and then something reminds me how delusional and silly all of that is and then everything comes crashing back down.  |
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Post by 1229 on Jan 31, 2011 21:59:53 GMT -5
Been there. Done that. Actually, I'm still doing that. |
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Post by Robbie88 on Jan 31, 2011 22:38:12 GMT -5
Been there. Done that. Actually, I'm still doing that. I'm sorry. |
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Post by Scotty on Jan 31, 2011 22:44:14 GMT -5
Been there. Done that. Actually, I'm still doing that. Ditto.  *hug* |
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Post by smur1 on Jan 31, 2011 23:18:19 GMT -5
I think it's the worst. I had one girlfriend before and the break up was difficult but I'd say it wasn't as bad as unrequited love. I guess to me the difference is unrequited love has so much potential/possibilities. The relationship with the ex-girlfriend was great but in a way we knew we weren't right for each other long term. With unrequited love it's so easy to get caught up in a fantasy world. With unrequited love we rarely see the flaws, which just makes things even worse. I can't do anything about it though. I fall for this trap every time.
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Post by gals on Feb 1, 2011 8:54:07 GMT -5
Whew!
It's not surprising that a lot of people can relate to this feeling, the feeling of unrequited love.
Almost all shy people are feeling this, I'm one of them--before my first ever relationship. Those unattainable crushes, those good looking admirable people you can't reach and usually who don't know you ever existed--sigh.
Oh well, we can still wish the best for ourselves and still be happy and continue to love ---again!
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Post by Jeremy on Feb 1, 2011 15:16:30 GMT -5
As someone once said when describing the ills and terrors of the Universe, "and then there's unrequited love, and tyranny, and cruelty" Yes, that's me as well. For me, it came crashing down permanently when she told me she had a new boyfriend (about 4 years younger than her - what's that spotty youth got that I haven't?! Actually don't answer that...) and was pregnent with his child. There really is no way back from that is there? |
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Post by Robbie88 on Feb 1, 2011 15:42:01 GMT -5
As someone once said when describing the ills and terrors of the Universe, "and then there's unrequited love, and tyranny, and cruelty" Yes, that's me as well. For me, it came crashing down permanently when she told me she had a new boyfriend (about 4 years younger than her - what's that spotty youth got that I haven't?! Actually don't answer that...) and was pregnent with his child. There really is no way back from that is there? Yikes, sorry about that dude. I have to say, though, as much as unrequited love hurts, I still prefer it over no love at all.  |
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Post by Scotty on Feb 1, 2011 15:54:37 GMT -5
I have to say, though, as much as unrequited love hurts, I still prefer it over no love at all. That's true I guess. For a long time after I lost my first love I thought I would never be able to love again. But after a few years I fell for my best friend (who of course wasn't interested,lol). At least I knew I was still capable of it.  |
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Post by Jeremy on Feb 1, 2011 16:59:18 GMT -5
[/quote] Yikes, sorry about that dude. [/quote] That's OK, I know it was never going to happen. We'd known each other for years by that point, so if it hadn't happened by then, it wasn't going to. Besides, the 'spotty youth' is actually a lot better for her than the abusive, drug adicted, violent, reprobate, pathetic excuses for human beings she'd gone for before. They now have a beautiful 16 month old daughter, and she's happy, so I'm happy for her. |
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Post by Robbie88 on Feb 1, 2011 17:05:04 GMT -5
I have to say, though, as much as unrequited love hurts, I still prefer it over no love at all. That's true I guess. For a long time after I lost my first love I thought I would never be able to love again. But after a few years I fell for my best friend (who of course wasn't interested,lol). At least I knew I was still capable of it. Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. I dunno....I guess as much as it hurts there's still something about being in love that feels kind of good, even if it's unrequited. I guess I personally just enjoy the brief moments of delusional happiness that I get out of it, even if I know in the back of my mind it will eventually all come crashing down... |
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