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Post by putter65 on Mar 9, 2011 3:28:04 GMT -5
Yes I know that was the reason !
It was a pain reading it though. It's like I'm waiting for something to go wrong !
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Post by Karen on Mar 9, 2011 6:55:59 GMT -5
It's like I'm waiting for something to go wrong ! I laughed when I read this, I literally feel like that every time there is anything remotely nice happening, even for little things like waiting for a package to come in the mail, I start thinking that it will get lost or broken ect. For big things the feeling is even worse! |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 9, 2011 10:06:35 GMT -5
Oh I know. The daft things I've thought. She'll turn up tommorrow with a new fella and he'll say 'you don't mind me playing do you ?' - crazy stuff like that !
Or the creepy boss will turn up and be playing in front of us.
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Post by putter65 on Mar 10, 2011 8:59:38 GMT -5
Just been and had a great time. We had so much fun. She seemed to really enjoy herself. We do get on very well. I just didn't think it was right to ask her out on a proper date. We did suggest future meetings though.
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Post by Karen on Mar 10, 2011 9:10:43 GMT -5
Glad it went well!  You were probably right to not ask her out on an official date (since your relationship still seems tenuous), but I would try to ask her on another "friend" date. After a couple of those kinds of outings go for the "official" date. ..... of course I could be wrong  |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 10, 2011 9:56:12 GMT -5
She did tell me a few weeks ago she didn't want a boyfriend. That was in a conversation, it wasn't directed at me. Friends is nice and hopefully it will continue. If anything else happens, I guess it will just happen naturally. I asked her to my house to have a go on my piano and she seemed keen. I never felt nervous asking either.
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Post by gals on Mar 10, 2011 23:30:48 GMT -5
That's great that you don't force things allow things to flow naturally, so as to ease the pressure between you.
Maybe for now you can go on as friends, but who knows? When you become too comfortable with each other you can take it to the next level, time will also tell. Just enjoy your freindship, and good luck!
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Post by putter65 on Mar 11, 2011 6:26:49 GMT -5
Thanks gals and Karen !
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Post by additive on Mar 14, 2011 15:25:27 GMT -5
It's like I'm waiting for something to go wrong ! I laughed when I read this, I literally feel like that every time there is anything remotely nice happening, even for little things like waiting for a package to come in the mail, I start thinking that it will get lost or broken ect. For big things the feeling is even worse! Stop that! It's like a self fulfilling prophecy waiting to happen.  Seriously, try and cut of self defeating thoughts before they gain momentum. What happens is that you sub-communicate your fears to others(and your own sub-conscience) and they'll anticipate and go along with it. I'm not saying you should put on rose tinted glass but please take of the smokey black ones.   |
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Post by Karen on Mar 17, 2011 8:43:39 GMT -5
Stop that! It's like a self fulfilling prophecy waiting to happen. Seriously, try and cut of self defeating thoughts before they gain momentum. What happens is that you sub-communicate your fears to others(and your own sub-conscience) and they'll anticipate and go along with it. I'm not saying you should put on rose tinted glass but please take of the smokey black ones. Your right I am getting pretty good at stopping negative thoughts about myself, but about life's circumstances I am still not so good at stopping the negativity. I'm going to start working on this more. Thanks for the good advice! ;D |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 17, 2011 10:04:54 GMT -5
I'm terrible for thinking negative thoughts. I think 99% of these thoughts are wrong but I still keep having them.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 17, 2011 18:52:21 GMT -5
I'm terrible for thinking negative thoughts. I think 99% of these thoughts are wrong but I still keep having them. no, you are not terrible. it's just a habit of thought you have to work on to get it corrected. |
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Post by geekguy on Mar 24, 2011 13:50:41 GMT -5
The only love I know is unrequited love, and the other person doesn't even know T_T
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Post by putter65 on Mar 25, 2011 12:07:29 GMT -5
I've never told a woman that I love them. Never done that. I always want to keep it quiet. That is the best way. Either way people like me are always going to get hurt.
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Post by rosesc on May 21, 2011 0:41:42 GMT -5
unrequited love the most painful? i wouldn't know, since that's the only kind of love i've ever experienced.
i almost hate it, because it leaves me heartbroken each and every time, and it makes me want to give up on love altogether. but it's the only kind of love i've known; when gone from it too long, i start to miss the feeling of loving someone, even if it is from afar...
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