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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 9, 2007 12:31:50 GMT -5
I know how it feels to fancy a girl where it seems that there is no way in the world that you could ever get over her, but trust me - you will. I am pretty sure that you will not take any action with her because you are not ready, but the main concern is for you to get over her as quickly as possible. There will be other crushes and the key is to act on them as soon as they appear. Contrary to your romantic day-dreaming, women are usually very pragmatic and even if you approach this girl you will get a rather cold reception and she will make it clear to you that you're just a face in the crowd and certainly nothing special to her. If you do work up the courage - be prepared for that. Many guys have already figured that out and that's why they are advocating not to "put all eggs in one basket" or in other words don't commit to pursuing one woman for a very long time because it will be wasted. Carbon, I really appreciate everything you've said to me. But here's the thing. Its not a matter of will I ever get over her. I don't WANT to get over her. I have had crushes in the past that I thought I would never get over, but eventually did. What I have right now is not a matter of me thinking I will never get over it, but one where I don't want to get over it. I don't want to forget her. I know she's no less human than I, but as far as I'm concerned, only a complete transformation could change how I feel. She's just perfect. Its me who's flawed I know it all sounds weird, but I don't want to move on from her, no matter what the end result is. |
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 10, 2007 19:05:08 GMT -5
Well, today was the last day of this particular class, so it was the last time I see her before our exam this Saturday. So I guess its not the end yet, but close enough.
She looked great today. Her long hair looked and smelled great, and she wore the usual tight girly clothing. Loved looking at her, but it was still really sad. I'm not sure where I'll go from here, all I know I'll never forget her.
I am so creepy.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 10, 2007 23:05:30 GMT -5
Well, today was the last day of this particular class, so it was the last time I see her before our exam this Saturday. So I guess its not the end yet, but close enough. She looked great today. Her long hair looked and smelled great, and she wore the usual tight girly clothing. Loved looking at her, but it was still really sad. I'm not sure where I'll go from here, all I know I'll never forget her. I am so creepy. if this makes you 'creepy', you have one helluva lotta company, lol. ;D |
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 10, 2007 23:39:41 GMT -5
Ha ha. I guess I've got friends in low places!
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 15, 2007 18:34:43 GMT -5
bella, any updates on your situation? Or is it still status quo? I'm dying to know. As for me, today, we had the exam this morning, so its probably the last time I'll see the lady of my dreams. It was sad, I did catch her looking at me, but in the end, it really didn't mean anything. She looked as good as she ever did. What can I say. At least I got to spend the last four months with her (sort of). I want to cry myself to sleep now.  |
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Post by annaa on Dec 15, 2007 19:32:25 GMT -5
...I want to cry myself to sleep now. Aww don't say that...  There will be more girls, honest. |
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 16, 2007 14:22:19 GMT -5
What if I don't want there to be more girls? I just want her. If I was any different or any better of a person, I wouldn't be in this situation right now.
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Post by annaa on Dec 16, 2007 19:53:44 GMT -5
What if I don't want there to be more girls? I just want her. If I was any different or any better of a person, I wouldn't be in this situation right now. Sweetie you just sound like you need some time. It probably feels like there's not going to be anyone else out there who will even come close to her.. but that's not true. You can't keep beating yourself up - this whole thing didn't fail just because you're shy. I believe things happen for a reason. Who's to say that, even if you had approached her and dated her, it wouldn't have gone wrong/not lived up to your expectations? In a few weeks/months time, you'll look back on this and it will definately not hurt so bad - I promise.  |
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 17, 2007 12:50:56 GMT -5
Sweetie you just sound like you need some time. It probably feels like there's not going to be anyone else out there who will even come close to her.. but that's not true. You can't keep beating yourself up - this whole thing didn't fail just because you're shy. I believe things happen for a reason. Who's to say that, even if you had approached her and dated her, it wouldn't have gone wrong/not lived up to your expectations? In a few weeks/months time, you'll look back on this and it will definately not hurt so bad - I promise. See, that's where you might not understand. This is a matter of me not wanting to let this go. I want to look back on this and have it hurt, because that's how much I wanted this to have succeeded. Like I said in my last post, the only way this can't hurt is if I was a different person. I don't want to be a different person, because I want her. I know it sounds creepy, but that's how it is. |
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Post by annaa on Dec 17, 2007 14:30:31 GMT -5
Sweetie you just sound like you need some time. It probably feels like there's not going to be anyone else out there who will even come close to her.. but that's not true. You can't keep beating yourself up - this whole thing didn't fail just because you're shy. I believe things happen for a reason. Who's to say that, even if you had approached her and dated her, it wouldn't have gone wrong/not lived up to your expectations? In a few weeks/months time, you'll look back on this and it will definately not hurt so bad - I promise. See, that's where you might not understand. This is a matter of me not wanting to let this go. I want to look back on this and have it hurt, because that's how much I wanted this to have succeeded. Like I said in my last post, the only way this can't hurt is if I was a different person. I don't want to be a different person, because I want her. I know it sounds creepy, but that's how it is. You're right - I don't understand... why do you want to hold on to something that hurts so bad? Why won't you allow yourself to think that maybe one day you'll get over it and find someone more suitable? All you feel when you think about her is pain- it's quite clear you're beating yourself up about it. Nobody is worth that. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 18, 2007 9:29:17 GMT -5
Sweetie you just sound like you need some time. It probably feels like there's not going to be anyone else out there who will even come close to her.. but that's not true. You can't keep beating yourself up - this whole thing didn't fail just because you're shy. I believe things happen for a reason. Who's to say that, even if you had approached her and dated her, it wouldn't have gone wrong/not lived up to your expectations? In a few weeks/months time, you'll look back on this and it will definately not hurt so bad - I promise. See, that's where you might not understand. This is a matter of me not wanting to let this go. I want to look back on this and have it hurt, because that's how much I wanted this to have succeeded. Like I said in my last post, the only way this can't hurt is if I was a different person. I don't want to be a different person, because I want her. I know it sounds creepy, but that's how it is. that sounds a wee bit masochistic. are you getting in touch with your inner masochist?  |
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Post by ball4yourout on Dec 18, 2007 12:50:22 GMT -5
Damn, you uncovered my secret, Sweet Pea. LOL
No, its not that, its just a matter of me wanting something so badly, so irrationally.
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Post by annaa on Dec 18, 2007 17:30:53 GMT -5
Damn, you uncovered my secret, Sweet Pea. LOL No, its not that, its just a matter of me wanting something so badly, so irrationally. Well you can think as irrationally as you want... just don't behave irrationally, ok?  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 18, 2007 17:34:26 GMT -5
Damn, you uncovered my secret, Sweet Pea. LOL No, its not that, its just a matter of me wanting something so badly, so irrationally. well, when you consciously and deliberately do things to hurt yourself, and you avoid doing things that could bring you pleasure...hmmmm... |
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Post by ty78 on Dec 19, 2007 23:35:23 GMT -5
I'm definitely like that guy you described... I'm decent looking for my age. Whenever I get looks and smiles from a girl that seems interested I freeze up. My advice is to get him inebriated so he loosens up. A Christmas party is good for this (if you have one at work).
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