What makes a good boyfriend/girlfriend?

[littlesongbird]

What do you guys think makes a good boyfriend/girlfriend? And what are some qualities to look for in someone or to have?

[benjamin87]

Hard to say since I've never realy had a girlfriend however I think whats inside a persons heart is much more important than their personality and how they express themselves. What I mean is it doesnt matter whether they are shy or outgoing, reserved or outspoken as long they are genuinely kind and compassionate and a good person which makes the most difference.

[Crashtastic]

It all depends on the person looking. Things like being kind and dependable are always important but you also need to be able to get along and have things in common. You also should be attracted to them (that doesn't always mean the 'hot' guy/girl for everyone). There are a lot of nice people walking around but that doesn't mean they are for you.

[annaa]

It sort of depends on how long you intend a relationship to be - if it's disposable, and you're not up for long-term commitment i'm sure your preferences are much different to someone who wants something serious.

Crash is right too - "nice" doesn't necessarily mean they're the one for you. And also, there has to be some physical attraction too (of course, nobody can agree on what's attractive.. everyone has their own ideas).

I think you need to look a bit deeper and see if your interests/goals/beliefs are compatible too.
For example, a guy with a nice personality, similar interests and with quite good looks but doesn't want kids won't be suitable for a woman who really wants to have children....
Similarly, a pleasant & good looking woman who puts her career first won't be suited to a guy who believes women should have more "traditional" roles in a relationship.

Things like that I think can make a big difference to whether or not a relationship would work *(in the long term).

[pnoopiepnats]

Well I think it depends on age and gender really.

I'll be bold and blunt and say most young people, especially males, are looking for the hottest person who will allow them to get in their pants.

Hooking up is mainly about sex.

I think the girls want love and companionship more than the boys do so it works that the girls give sex to get love and companionship and the boys give love and companionship to get sex.

Later on, when people see their friends settling down and having kids, they feel the pressure to find someone to do the same. I think that is mainly from society expectations and peer pressure. They believe they are supposed to get married and have 2.1 kids and have the things that go along with it.

They mate, procreate and some years later, usually around 7, they get bored with their lives and get a divorce.

What people look for in their 30s and up? Who the hell knows? LOL

You see the elderly couple in their 70s and most likely sex isn't the main reason they are together. I think it is companionship and friendship and similar values people want mostly then.

[annaa]

pnoopiepnats said:

...I'll be bold and blunt and say most young people, especially males, are looking for the hottest person who will allow them to get in their pants...

Most young people. Not all.

[Sweet Pea]

there's a lot of things that are good to find in a mate...but essentially i look for a guy who's honest, loyal, affectionate, fun and sexually compatible.

[MrNice]

Most young people. Not all.

yep - the ones sitting on the sidelines watching all the action and complaining about how they can't get into a relationship - they are not like that

[Crashtastic]

lsdima said:

Most young people. Not all.

yep - the ones sitting on the sidelines watching all the action and complaining about how they can't get into a relationship - they are not like that

...Sometimes...I picture you having little devil horns lol

[Sweet Pea]

crashandburn said:

lsdima said:

yep - the ones sitting on the sidelines watching all the action and complaining about how they can't get into a relationship - they are not like that

...Sometimes...I picture you having little devil horns lol

and a little devil tail.

[annaa]

lsdima said:

Most young people. Not all.

yep - the ones sitting on the sidelines watching all the action and complaining about how they can't get into a relationship - they are not like that

I'm confident that I will get into a relationship - as soon as I am ready.

I'm 'sitting on the sidelines' because i've still got some negativite issues, and to bring those into a relationship isn't fair or right.

I am different from any generalisation you or anyone else can make. I'm special. It's great to be me.

MrNice - I don't want to turn yet another thread into an arguement between you and me. If you have issues with me personally, then you can either PM me and we'll discuss it - or you can bite your tongue and learn about something called tolerance.

Good day to you.

[MrNice]

or you can bite your tongue and learn about something called tolerance.

I wonder why you would say something like this if you do not want an argument?
just another example of saying one thing and doing another

[Rose]

I've heard (and personally believe) that some of the most succesful couples started out as best friends. Obviously it helps if he/she is someone you can really click with in a special way. It makes the relationship much more solid. I think a lot of the people who base relationships on attraction and/or sex alone will be disappointed in the long run, and get bored with each other like a? said.

[Bodhi]

I'd just like to note, an ad for Sugardaddie.com came up when I viewed this thread.

[pnoopiepnats]

rose said:

I've heard (and personally believe) that some of the most succesful couples started out as best friends. Obviously it helps if he/she is someone you can really click with in a special way. It makes the relationship much more solid. I think a lot of the people who base relationships on attraction and/or sex alone will be disappointed in the long run, and get bored with each other like a? said.

Yeah I was sort of being flip and moody in my other post but for some there really is truth in what I said.

I guess you have to define couple/monkey/owner. I can only really speak about ltr and marriage cause that is what I know about.

I'm the only loser in my family who ever got divorced so I have been around many successful marriages.

I look at why my parents and sisters have been successful. I dont know all the reasons of course and maybe it is part luck but it seems to me they all are good friends or besties with their partner. They have common interests and have fun together. They are bonded. Another thing they seem to give enough space for the other to just be themselves. Like my parents, if they had other interests they just did them and neither griped about the other one. Oh and they are committed and don't have the disposable mentality. Very important thing I believe.