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Post by Outcast on Sept 19, 2018 23:58:58 GMT -5
I feel weird. Because when i am chatting online with another person, i can act and say things that i don't normally say or do in person. I guess in my effort to gain friends through chatting with them online, i act way friendlier and talk more.
Am i just fooling myself and others when i do this? Sometimes i can't help myself. I'm not as conscious of the things i say when i am chatting with other people online. And of course, if you want to chat with them, normally you have to be the one to start and keep the conversation going.
Should i try to imagine i am talking to that person IN person instead? That way i think i can be my usual shy quiet self. Or should i think, ok, normally i wouldn't or don't say those things to other people i physically meet. So why should i say those things online to other people right?
I am such a fool ain't i? It seems more easier to type the things i want to express and say. Rather than say them out loud in person.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 9, 2018 23:31:05 GMT -5
Even though you have 0% dating experience, i am thankful for the tips and advice you've given Shyborg.
That link for interesting conversations seems very helpful since it does cover a lot of possible topics you can talk about.
Yeah about not replying to some people sooner is what i am guilty of sometimes too. I sometimes tend to push it back since it requires a lot of time and effort on my part to think of what i can say in response to them. Then there are other easy and fun distractions that have always been there for me to escape these kinds of problems or anxiety. So i get tempted and get too absorbed in them from time to time. Not to mention, other daily necessary activities which need my attention as well.
I do see how it must feel if one doesn't get a reply soon. I know how i would feel bad and pessimistic if they would do that too. But yeah sometimes, i need some time to think and respond back.
I'm starting to feel the same way about chatting first. I would want to see if we can get along from there first, as well see if she can tolerate my bland and boring chat ways. If she can do that, then i would think there might be some hope that she might like the real me?
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Post by Outcast on Sept 8, 2018 3:49:59 GMT -5
Well it seems i have to be careful when i try to set up some dates. Tips on DatingOnce you set up a date, it says i should let the girl know if i'm interested or not quickly. Guess that means i can't try to be friends with them. Hmmm....so i should be careful when asking to meet up with a girl. Once you meet them, its either you like them for a second date or its all over huh.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 23:31:17 GMT -5
Whisper? Maybe i'll try that too. Still have the Bottled app and Slowly. It's nice when you do get a bottle or message mail. You still get a chance to reply to people from all over the world. I would like to get a chance to exchange letters with people from another country despite the language barrier. I want to use a foreign language app so i can both understand them and write to them in their language. That's what gets me excited sometimes. If that could work, i think it would be great. Language apps nowadays seems very accurate and reliable.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 22:12:05 GMT -5
It's funny how all my insecurities just pops out. Arghh....I don't want to think too much anymore.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 5:40:54 GMT -5
Sometimes, i think i just don't know what i'm doing. And if i'm doing it right.
If i click on the girls basing it on physical attraction, often times i later get to see their profile and age. And the age gap is a bit big. I don't want to creep the girls out. How much age difference should i be going for?
I'm not sure if physical attraction is all it takes. What else should i be looking for. I think the most likely compatible person would be someone shy and quiet like me right? I don't think opposites really attract. Maybe in some cases, im not sure.
What are some of the things do you guys look for, to help you decide if you want to date a guy/girl or go for that second date?
Anyways, i guess i'll just have to roll with the punches for the meantime.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 3:07:07 GMT -5
Hmmm. Haven't really read much for a very long time. Maybe...Quasimodo? Hunchback of Notre Dame. Him being a recluse and naive. I think i can relate to him.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 3:05:09 GMT -5
Well. I managed to chat with 3 girls for a while.
One suddenly stopped replying, i don't know. Maybe it was something i said.
The second one, i don't know, i think i've run out of interesting things to talk about. She's been taking a long time to respond for a while. So i've been hesitating if i should try chatting with her again. I can't think of interesting things to talk about.
Third one hasn't replied yet. It's been only one day. It also took me at least one day to reply to her last time. So i'm giving her some time to respond. But as usual, i'm having negative thoughts about it.
In some other sites, i do get some notifications that some are interested. But when i reply to those who had sent those signs, i didn't get any response. I do have to decline some other people too. So again, i do understand why people decline me as well.
I dunno if i can still go on trying. The only successes i have are those who have interest in me first. So i was thinking of waiting for such notifications first.
I do still check the sites from time to time, and still try to message those that interest me. Not sure if i can find a good match there or what to do afterwards.
Am i doing the right thing? Is it better to chat first? Or should i try setting up meetings first? Since it is a "dating" site, so maybe they are expecting to have dates/meetings? Then again, maybe it would be awkward for me too, if i get too nervous and tongue tied while meeting with them.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 28, 2018 5:39:02 GMT -5
I just joined some local dating sites very recently. One of the sites was recommended to me by a girl i chatted with on the "Bottled" app, not so long ago. Gained some courage posting my pics there too. I was advise to reach out to girls that i'm interested in. So i kinda just clicked away, hoping that at least one would respond back. Right now, there's at least 2 that have responded. I'm not really expecting much. But hopefully i can learn to handle this situation i'm getting myself into.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 27, 2018 23:44:41 GMT -5
I like Uptown Girl and Honesty from Billy Joel.
When i had a crush on a beautiful rich girl, i probably thought of singing or humming to the song Uptown Girl.
=P
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Post by Outcast on Aug 27, 2018 23:41:00 GMT -5
Belated Happy Birthday Scotty.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 27, 2018 23:40:08 GMT -5
That's the problem I had with SKOUT it showed me pictures of people who were apprantley near me and then some of those people started messaging me, which lead to me deleting my account within 20 minuetes. Well, i don't get that problem anymore. Ever since i posted my picture in my profile in SKOUT. No one's been messaging me anymore. Problem solved. I tried Slowly for a bit. But eventually i realized i just don't have the patience anymore to wait for letters that take days to come. I dunno. Maybe it's the influence of the technology of the times. People tend to get what they want a bit faster nowadays. I think i've also lost my patience with Bottled. Sorry its probably just me. I've been feeling down more often these days. (Did something bold and fool hardy and ended up embarrassing myself.) I think other people might still enjoy them and get something from it.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 22, 2018 3:01:18 GMT -5
You should try, it couldn’t hurt. (Really, what’s not to like?) I've tried the bottled app, and it notified me that my message was received. It also notified me that the one who received my message passed it on to another person.... I guess you have the option to either reply to a message or pass it on to another. I've also tried the app SKOUT. I get very intimidated when i see all kinds of people there online. I've tried reaching out to someone from another country but i guess there is a language barrier. People check me sometimes there. Especially when i check out their profile first. But, its hard. I feel really uncomfortable if i post my picture there. So having no picture only sets me back more naturally. I did get one or two messages from other people. But i do feel guilty when i don't respond to them. That's why i do understand when people reject me. Because i'm guilty of doing it as well.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 20, 2018 2:02:15 GMT -5
When i think about trying those sites, i feel i'm just not confident that other people will like me. I don't think i know the right words to say. Hopefully others here can find them helpful.
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Post by Outcast on Jun 29, 2018 12:53:13 GMT -5
Would you fall for this trick?
Wow. I think it's a miracle the victims didn't get a heart attack.
Ok. Last one. They really put a lot of effort on these pranks. I think anyone would get scared.
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