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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 10, 2022 16:22:59 GMT -5
Hi Outcast - I haven't had that exactly as you describe, but it evoked a memory of my high school years in gym class. This one particular gym class we all girls were partnering up, and the scenario was that one girl whose best friend partnered with another close friend. That left her alone without a partner temporarily. I wanted to partner with one who I felt close to at the time and she was partnered with another girl. That left the other girl and me. Very awkward moment for me because I was not one of her favourite people, so I ended up saying to her, "Be my partner"? and she says "I guess so".
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 10, 2022 12:53:48 GMT -5
Hi there I thought we could get this thread going again in the good old 2017 ;=) Wow do i hate small talk and i just suck at it. I am to nervous to speak and my mind goes blank and that minute feels like an forever!!! Also, asking to much questions like in the video people notice it and get irratated answering questions. Anyone have advice on small talk?? I feel similarly. I find myself I hate small talk. I put up with it because I don't want people to think I am rude or don't care about them. I also as in the video get irritated answering questions. I prefer just two people just talking about whatever (especially deep things) but leave any necessary enquiries open ended so I don't have to answer a yes or a no and then they want to know why I don't (whatever question they are asking about my life that is not in the affirmative such as 'are you working?" - ugh I hate that one so much. I feel guilty enough about being unemployed because of health problems that for the most part people cannot see (they usually only see or accept it if a person is in a wheelchair, is blind, etc - well that is my observation anyway), without this reminding me! And another reason I hate questions is because I simply do not want to answer them and I cannot find a non offensive way to say "none of your business" and I end up answering something I would rather not.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 23:07:42 GMT -5
Reddragon, I think the females of the species you are referring to are actually aliens from another planet. On their home planet they are not screwed up or crazy. But seriously, maybe you should interact with different women, or else learn about women from different sources than the ones you are using. Your views might change with your experiences. Personally I like being treated kindly and with respect. My boyfriend is generally considered to be very nice. You may be right. However its not just the one source that I refer to. The fact is that everyone says the worse thing a guy can do in a relationship is to be too nice. Even the female friends I know are very open about it, If a guy wont stand up to them they will either take advantage of him or leave him. I see it every day, nice guys struggle for dates while jerks have to fight the women off. I know you said you like being treated kindly but did you ever consider that maybe you are just different? As I have said before people tend to say one thing and then do another, I try to judge by actions not words. Gonna throw in my 2 cents or two nickles as no more pennies in Canada lol - ok there is this guy in my building here about 6 years older than myself. He wanted to get together with me since last year. I sai I would play him some tunes on the guitar. Well you know how sometimes things get put off (I can procrastinate with the best - or worse - of them lol). Finally lately within the last week or so, I am bringing something to someone on the same floor. He is coming back to his apartment from Tim Horton<s (coffee shop). We say Hi. He says are you going to visit me or words to that effect. I say yes I will be there in a few mins I just want to drop off this power bar in another person's apartment box. Well we have a nice visit. I go get the guitar and bring it to his place and play some tunes. He likes that. Well as much as can be expected for ol me, he is almost as some would say all over me (not really but for me it is sort of like that). He says I could hold your hand all day! Last evening he invited me for supper which was kind of him. Now mind you we are just friends but he acted like he was interested in more than friendship. But yesterday (later on after I went home after supper at his place) he completely change like cold and hot water and he says over the phone in a very brusque manner: We will never be lovers. When he was the one who the day before this wanted a romantic relationship in the first place (while I was the reticent one!)!!! Shy is cool, if you revisit, please tell me what I did wrong. As one person said on here nice girls also finish last. I know you probably require more info. I am just a little tired at the moment as it is very late here in Canada and I need to get sum sleep. Thanks for reading.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 22:49:05 GMT -5
Yeah, I'd guess he's either he's a plagiarist or a salesman--if not in fact, then in spirit. Greenferret, let me tell you something. Everyone ...... and I mean "everyone" is an agent for some idea or other. There is no such thing as a person who is not selling something. Everytime you open up your mouth to voice an opinion, you are a salesperson. And in that sense, of course, I am a salesperson, too Agree with you immensely, shy is cool. I myself sell but no one is buying lol.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 22:32:12 GMT -5
I watched 1917 and Ip Man 4 recently, quite good. Yes! 1917. I am vaguely familiar with it at least perhaps the trailer of it, the Logo etc.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 22:24:12 GMT -5
OF MICE AND MEN, 1939 version. Very sad story, and considered a great film. Yes I agree wholeheartedly. Saw the movie. Read the book. So disappointed in the ending. Wanted them to have their little dream come true so badly:(.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 22:03:04 GMT -5
Saw it some time ago when it came out in the theatre. I wanted to go see something after the covid19 restrictions lifted. Wanted to see something with animals in it since I love them so much, esp. cats of all shapes and sizes.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 17:40:35 GMT -5
Wow, I remember when this thread was new, lol. I was a member a long time ago. About 13 years. This was such a safe place for me then. I'm not sure if anyone still lingers around here, but hey 😊how's life? I would add a pic but I do not remember how anymore! I haven't been on here in years either. I just randomly decided to check in and look who I found doing the same. How ya been? Hey Crash sweetie - if I can implement it, you absolutely can my dear:). Hey there, Knox howssit going? - still playing guitar? I am...at times lol. Need more practice that is for sure: I don't play often enough.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 17:34:04 GMT -5
Here I am...if the thing works for me lol: One is Marion's cat Jazzy spoiled 18 lbs eats all the time. Marion just dotes on her. She is wearing the poor old lady out! One is me this year with a skirt on. I look so bad lol. The other one with the blue small hoody I think I look not too too bad taken 2020. They start upright but end on the side. Could anyone pls help me get the pics upright? thx veddy much lol.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 16:22:20 GMT -5
Hi hello greetings.
Having typing trouble in laptop so pls forgive typing mistakes with the d which I had to use onscreen typewriter to fill in. It (laptop) also will not type question mark, backspace key, and quotation mark(s). Those you have read my posts before know that I am given to long posts; but unfortunately because of this above problem cite (ugh so many words with that letter!) this may be shorter - awfully hard for longwinded ole me to shorten my messages hahaha!
BuLLeT POInTs I guess - oops sorry about caps not on purpose just a mistake.
Still live at the address I cited when I posted 'moving on up' lost 20 lbs - weigh in the 120s now instead of the 140s-150s Hasn't made me able to take up jogging though (the weightloss) still no s o - almost lately but said too much about me a u and he backed off (*rolls eyes at self*) Still sore in body - legs, back, etc. Still not employed Still like cats, but have none (yes allowed just haven't gotten one) Still like star trek and other scifi Hyperhidrosis has gotten worse unfortunately. Very debilitating an frustrating. Still have anxiety depression ocd tenencies. so sick of these. I am still old fashioned and fair warning from ole ragtag very politically uncorrect. I am as Trad as Trad (remember him lol?) so if I say something politically incorrect please take it with a grain of salt if you can, as long as I am not flaming anyone personally (i.e. running them down or calling them names, etc.) but just giving my own personal opinion even if it is I mean if I sometimes use generalizations. If other people on here can say what they like as long as they obey the boss<s rules, I claim the same right or privilege. If you think what I might say is that bad, just report me to a mod or an admin. I will accept if they have to suspend me or whatever. I still feel bad that I have offended (not on purpose) some people in here. One has yet not spoken to me anymore either on here or in pm. I am of course grateful for those who have chosen to reply to me - I am very very grateful. I unfortunately have not overcome certain emotional problems, especially anger which I wish I could (overcome). I am also grateful to one that though I had offended years ago had chosen to forgive me. I still appreciate that also. I do feel that at least some of the guys I friended or 'followed' could at least follow me back - unless I have said something mean or offensive to them personally. You know who you are. I invite you to reevaluate your stance (if it is a stance) on not following certain of the opposite sex, me or other females who follow certain males on here. Or maybe it is just me you chose not to refollow; therefore I give a different invite: let us reason together.
Kudos to Russ for rising above this male tendency and following me back:).<I Thank you immensely:)! Well I guess that is it for now. Thanks for the few ones that replied to me back in pm and gave me kind words. It is a very comforting feeling of comraderie and friendship or sayings of that effect. Thank you all immensely!
Have a new nickname I gave myself - ragtag. And whoever will, may call me ragtag*. My real name is Mary. Feel free.
*yes I realize ragtag means more than one. But I digress lol.
P.S. I actually came in mulling over deleting my account. A kind word from one in pm made me reconsider...for now.
well well well guess I was again longwinded after all - *ba- da- dum* (I mean cymbal shot haha;))
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Post by Audio the obscure on Nov 11, 2018 21:20:21 GMT -5
Well a person could date someone just for the sake of dating, to practice that social interaction in a public setting so it would not necessarily be that the date be physically attractive. Just saying. Having a few common interests would make for good conversation. If both have an interest in politics, for example, then they could talk about that. Or sports. Or religion. Or maybe discuss favourite books, music, movies, that sort of thing.
I don't know if I'm being of any help, but I thought I'd put in a reply anyway lol.
I know that usually for men there has to be (for dating toward a long term relationship) a physical attraction. It's been my experience that women are more apt to date someone less attractive if the other factors (common interests and other compatibility traits) are present. I'm not so sure it's the same with men. I believe that with men unless there is that attraction, they are not so much apt to date someone less attractive unless as I mentioned earlier, they're just dating them as friends, or for the purpose of practicing social skills, etc.
With me, it's a combination of both, although in the voting thing, I clicked the "common interests" part as more important. At least with that, both parties will be able to find something mutual to discuss (politics, books, etc.) or to take part in (concert, sports game, etc.).
I hope you can find that special someone, Outcast. All the best to you!
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Post by Audio the obscure on Nov 11, 2018 21:01:12 GMT -5
If anyone on here uses Facebook, do you ever feel as if you can't post things other than more positive type posts? I'm probably not being very clear. But anyway, I joined around 2009 I think. And it's been my experience that unless I'm making positive type posts (like if I accomplished something), I don't seem to be well received in there - and these are people I know - have met - in real life! It's very frustrating feeling as if I can't be myself on there and talk about when I'm stressed out or depressed or other problems I'm having. One person even told me (this was a few years ago around 2012) that he wouldn't pray for me unless my posts reflected less negativity. Had a bit of a mini health scare at the time (just temporary, but it worried me and so I had emailed him asking for prayers, and that's when he said that he wasn't going to pray for me unless I showed the evidence he was looking for in my posts). Since then I made the attempt to rarely post anything negative, but more positive, but yet I still feel as if my posts are not good enough and that people who I've known for years no longer care about me. ^I know I'm probably sounding vague, so ask me whatever you want if you reply and I'll try to make it clearer. I know there are studies regarding this sort of thing so I'm going to check, and see if I can link something below. thoughtcatalog.com/elysejackson/2017/01/read-this-if-you-feel-like-social-media-is-making-you-depressed/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/progress-not-perfection/201109/social-media-makes-me-feel-bad-about-myselfThe second link mentioned about "faking cheerfulness" which hit like a nail on the head with me - That's how I feel: like I have to post i.e. positivity that I don't always feel. I've been making less and less posts on there over time because it's just not me. Sometimes, though, there are others on there that make the less positive posts, and they are bombarded with comments - well wishes and so on. And I'm thinking why is it ok for them to post these while it seems to me that I'm expected by those in my friends list to say positive things all the time? At least that's how I feel based on that person's comment to me that I cited earlier (about his saying he wasn't going to pray for me anymore unless my posts were reflecting more positivity). It's difficult even in here to make this post. I'm also nervous that if I make a post on facebook about feeling depressed or anxious or stressed that some will unfriend me. A person who unfriended me years ago has recently (to my pleasant surprise) made me a friend request which I was only too happy to click "confirm". I feel like I should just not even go in there if I can't make a positive post lest I "rock the boat" and cause the person to unfriend me again. (This friend is not the same as the earlier one who refused to pray for me a few years ago). It's as if I'm expected to be perfect over there - or at least, that's the impression I feel. Sorry again if this is unclear. If you have any thoughts, please reply if you have time. Thanks.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Oct 30, 2018 20:56:46 GMT -5
^ShyBorg - I know the song well. Rush is one of the best bands. Too bad they retired. The one you linked was the first one I'd ever listened to by them when I really started getting interested in music. Have a good one!
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Post by Audio the obscure on Oct 28, 2018 17:51:28 GMT -5
Crazy things I actually did on a Thursday. I don't know. I dressed up in a rabbit costume to go to the liquor store. awesome! i'll be shocked if you don't win craziest thing done on a thursday! For sure! Must have been a sight to see - hee hee;)!
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Post by Audio the obscure on Oct 28, 2018 17:50:18 GMT -5
I guess a person "had to be there" hehe;)
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